ng_moonmoth checks in

[ng_moonmoth]

Is there an interesting story behind your username?
Here it is. I wanted a handle that aligned with who I felt I really was, rather than who I appeared to be. Someone who has to assume a disguise in order to attempt to navigate a barely comprehensible and violent culture seemed like an excellent fit. I tacked on the "ng" part to recognize my nonbinary gender identity when I found that just "moonmoth" was taken on LiveJournal. I took it with me to Dreamwidth when I migrated.
Location and language(s):
San Francisco (California, USA) Bay Area. English. I can generally hack my way through reading German and French, and can often sort of follow a German conversation, but am not fluent in either.
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
Eisenhower baby.
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Hatred. Threats, particularly empty ones. Disrespect for others' opinions. Disrespect or dismissal of others' identities. Closed-mindedness. Bigotry of any sort, directed at any aspect of any person. Dehumanization. Dumping any sewage of that sort into my space.
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
No, but see next question.
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
No, but the series of self-discovery posts I did earlier this year will tell you a lot.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I am a genderqueer, nonbinary person. I suspect I always was, but I was hiding it behind a facade of cishet normativity until my sexuality and gender identity escaped and got in my face some years back, during a period of self-reflection. I've begun to catch up on working out who I really am, and how I want to express my identity -- a process I characterize as Going Out In Public. Right now, I'm still doing that with a good deal of care. Current results are encouraging, though.

Respect for someone's identity includes accepting, and ideally affirming, it. Please refrain from attempting to cisgender me based on anything you see here or may think you know about me.

This account is where I get to be Out On The Internet. If you and I have met in meatspace, you may have worked out (or I may have shared with you) the connection. If so, please respect the illusion of control over the process I am trying to maintain, and address me by the name that goes with the space we are interacting in, until I announce that I am now Out All The Time. If we are in meatspace, I will let you know how comfortable I am being Out In Context (= willing to interact as ng_moonmoth).
You mostly write about:
My creative efforts. As much as I write about anything.
You never or very rarely write about:
My daily life. Generally, things that would link my meatspace identity with this account.
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
Right now, it's entirely public. Part of my process of Going Out In Public may include posting about my experience doing that. If that happens, those (and other personal stuff) will be locked.
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
I don't post often enough, or about enough things, to warrant the effort.
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Sporadic. I went on a run in February and March in response to a series of questions about self-discovery, but I'm not a regular poster.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
When a meme catches my eye, I'll often play along. By fraction of content, memes are fairly high. By frequency of posts, they are low, along with everything else.
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Having a geographically and culturally diverse collection of people I can interact with.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
At least daily.
You really enjoy reading about:
Just about anything. I treasure the opportunity to read about what people who aren't like me are saying and thinking about.
You have very little interest in reading about:
Not all that much. If someone considers something important enough to them to post it, I'm likely to read it. Fanworks for fandoms I haven't been exposed to are things I'm likely to skip -- but I might take a look at some point to see whether it's something I might like.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
The scroll bars on my browser work just fine, thank you. Cut tags are a goodness.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Presence. It shows that someone's reading, and found what they read worth commenting on.
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
Not at all. Someone's reading experience may not include commenting.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
If I think I have something worth saying, I say it. I'm a decently frequent commenter, and will stay with comment threads as needed.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
I don't think about whether things "click" or not, so I'm not going to unsubscribe to someone based on that. And I don't much care why someone might wish to unsubscribe to me, although some reference to why wouldn't hurt. If I decide to revoke access to someone, I would send a note for that, and would hope that anyone who chose to revoke my access to their private posts would do similarly.
AND LASTLY

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
As much as I do anything, I'm likely to write about ysabetwordsmith. I'm a regular prompter and frequent sponsor of works coming from their Poetry Fishbowl, have written the occasional fanwork in some of their spaces, have set a couple of their poems to music, and added a good chunk of background information to some of their storylines.
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?I love to share thoughts. I'm eager to start or continue an exchange about just about anything, publicly or privately. Drop me a line!