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findingfriendsIs there an interesting story behind your username? not exactly. it's a lyric from a coathangers song. they used to be my favorite band and this was one of my favorite songs on my first favorite album of theirs. i learned to play a lot of their songs on bass including this one. i have barely listened to them in years tho.
Location and language(s): the states. currently in socal but often stay in the pnw and also lived in austin texas for a while. i post in english, i would be interested to read entries in spanish tho if there are any spanish speakers on here.
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): i'm in my thirties but i don't mind others' ages.
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: idk. does this mean politics? i'm an anarchist. i find liberals equally and sometimes more annoying than other conservatives lol so there aren't really any issues that bother me more than others. they all bother me.
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? i do not but perhaps i should.
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?: it doesn't have much info either. i am not necessarily a private person just not trying to publicly dox myself before even adding someone.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: i have a toddler. my co-parent is a drug user. we are both trans.
You mostly write about: life stuff. typically just what i've been up to but also about my toxic relationship sometimes which can be pretty intense and probably triggering for some.
You never or very rarely write about: current events. my sex life (though i would like to, i would probably want to have a different journal or place for that). idk media or pop culture stuff. i do pay attention to these things i just don't write about them here.
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?: locked
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?: no
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): aiming for weekly but it has been more seldom than that lately.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?: photos sometimes
What do you enjoy most about journaling?: trying to get my thoughts in order or just express them. reading about other people's lives.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?: usually a few times a week
You really enjoy reading about: just other people's everyday stuff or their thoughts on things, even if it's not a topic i'm necessarily interested in. i like learning.
You have very little interest in reading about: fandom stuff
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?: i don't mind. i like an active friends page and i can skip it if it's annoying.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?: quality. i hate getting "sorry that happened" "glad you're okay" comments on every single entry. i understand some people are neurodivergent and to them those are nice things to say but i am neurodivergent and to me those are not nice things to say.
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?: no but i do delete people that stop updating after a long while.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?: i usually only comment if i feel i have something useful to say, or if they said something thought provoking that i want to engage with.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?: i usually just leave them on my journal, i don't think i've ever unfriended someone for not being bffs, and i don't think anyone has given me a heads up for unfriending me. if someone wants to that's fine but i don't mind being ghosted.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?: nah
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?: i would love to add other gays, anarchists or even leftists, vegans, poc, current of former drug users etc. i don't always write about those assets of my identity but they obviously inform my worldview as my positionality in society marginalizes me in some kinds of ways.
Location and language(s): the states. currently in socal but often stay in the pnw and also lived in austin texas for a while. i post in english, i would be interested to read entries in spanish tho if there are any spanish speakers on here.
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): i'm in my thirties but i don't mind others' ages.
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: idk. does this mean politics? i'm an anarchist. i find liberals equally and sometimes more annoying than other conservatives lol so there aren't really any issues that bother me more than others. they all bother me.
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? i do not but perhaps i should.
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?: it doesn't have much info either. i am not necessarily a private person just not trying to publicly dox myself before even adding someone.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: i have a toddler. my co-parent is a drug user. we are both trans.
You mostly write about: life stuff. typically just what i've been up to but also about my toxic relationship sometimes which can be pretty intense and probably triggering for some.
You never or very rarely write about: current events. my sex life (though i would like to, i would probably want to have a different journal or place for that). idk media or pop culture stuff. i do pay attention to these things i just don't write about them here.
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?: locked
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?: no
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): aiming for weekly but it has been more seldom than that lately.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?: photos sometimes
What do you enjoy most about journaling?: trying to get my thoughts in order or just express them. reading about other people's lives.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?: usually a few times a week
You really enjoy reading about: just other people's everyday stuff or their thoughts on things, even if it's not a topic i'm necessarily interested in. i like learning.
You have very little interest in reading about: fandom stuff
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?: i don't mind. i like an active friends page and i can skip it if it's annoying.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?: quality. i hate getting "sorry that happened" "glad you're okay" comments on every single entry. i understand some people are neurodivergent and to them those are nice things to say but i am neurodivergent and to me those are not nice things to say.
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?: no but i do delete people that stop updating after a long while.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?: i usually only comment if i feel i have something useful to say, or if they said something thought provoking that i want to engage with.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?: i usually just leave them on my journal, i don't think i've ever unfriended someone for not being bffs, and i don't think anyone has given me a heads up for unfriending me. if someone wants to that's fine but i don't mind being ghosted.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?: nah
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?: i would love to add other gays, anarchists or even leftists, vegans, poc, current of former drug users etc. i don't always write about those assets of my identity but they obviously inform my worldview as my positionality in society marginalizes me in some kinds of ways.