New Friends Wanted

[dandylover1]

Is there an interesting story behind your username?
I chose my username because I love dandies. However, defining the term and how I became interested in them would make this entry far too long, as they have changed throughout the centuries and even the decades. Suffice it to say that they are elegant, eloquent, witty, and sometimes sarcastic men whose styles usually, though not always, change with the times. They possess a great knowledge of fashion and high culture in general and are not afraid to share their opinions.

Location and language(s):
New Jersey, America. American English (native speaker), British English (Upper and Conservative Received Pronunciation), French (not used since secondary school), Latin (beginner/West Minster Pronunciation)

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
I am forty. I tend to get along better with those who are older than I, particularly seniors.

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Not really, but I do believe in rights for women, homosexuals, and the disabled, and I believe in science over religion, so if you're against that, don't add me.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Yes. It is a sticky post in my journal. You can also read the biography in my profile.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
Yes.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I am totally blind, due to Retinopathy of Prematurity. However, while I may occasionally write about it, it's not the focus of my life. I am a grammar prescriptivist. I also hate political correctness and will not change my language to suit the whims of others.

You mostly write about:
Entries may consist of anything from short summaries of my day, to full essays on various topics, to random thoughts, to poetry, to short stories. I may also write about my parents (two moms) and our dog, as some of those stories can be quite entertaining. I wish to keep my journal light and happy, though if I feel that I must discuss something serious and/or important, I will do so.

You never or very rarely write about:
I don't write about politics, modern popular culture, most popular sports, or feminine things such as hair (other than to say I got a haircut), nails, makeup, or women's fashion.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
My journal is public.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
No. But if I write an adult-oriented entry, I will always put it behind a cut and keep it age-restricted, so that those who shouldn't read it, or who don't wish to do so, can avoid it.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
I try to write daily, though I may not always do so. However, I usually write weekly or several times per week.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
If, by memes, you mean surveys, yes. I do frequently post links, but they are not to sell anything and they always relate to the current discussion. No to all of the rest.

What do you enjoy most about journaling?
I enjoy the fact that it's more meaningful than merely posting quick status updates. I can write about things which matter to me at length. I can also get to know people better.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
I intend to read it daily, or at least, every other day. I have been very bad at this in the past, but now that Facebook has discontinued their Basic Mobile site (not app) I will read more.

You really enjoy reading about:
Dandyism, men's fashion (mostly antique and/or formal), cats, European history, the natural world, poetry, good literature, recipes, tea, nasal snuff, the Regency and Edwardian eras, the upper class, the Royal Family, crafts, gardening, high culture, different cuisines, and the paranormal, as well as generally interesting experiences.

You have very little interest in reading about:
American politics, political activism (with a few exceptions/see hot button issues), drama in people's lives, medical issues, depression/anxiety, drug use, modern celebrities, constant inspirational and/or religious posts, frequent use of obscenities and bad grammar and spelling if you're a native English speaker, and posts with mostly visual content.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
I am totally blind and my screen reader cannot read such things. Please do not add me if you post them regularly. Again, if memes refers to surveys, those are completely fine.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Quality. If you are a native English speaker, you ought to at least attempt to write well. If not, just try your best.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
No, unless they don't post regularly and/or we never communicate.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
If I have something to say, I say it.

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
I usually unfriend without warning, unless we were friends for a while, or I feel I owe the person an explanation. I would expect the same from friends.

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Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
No, though I might write about a book that I'm currently reading or about a particular documentary that I have watched. If anything, I prefer old BBC radio dramas.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
Don't be afraid to ask questions, but do expect honest answers if you do.