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findingfriendsIs there an interesting story behind your username?
I don’t know how interesting it is, but when I was 8 years old, a friend and I had a long running game in which we were twin princesses. She was Sarita and I was Sabethea. I then reused the name in my teens when I realised I was a multiple, as one of my personalities. Then, when the internet started and I needed an alias, it seemed like an obvious one, and I’ve been using it online since the beginning of the internet, which is… quite scary, really.
Location and language(s):
UK, and English only, alas
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
I’m in my 40s, but will friend anyone 18+
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
If you are racist, homophobic, transphobic, very right-wing, a climate change denier, always absolutely certain you are right and the other person is wrong… all of these are going to make you dislike me greatly. And probably vice versa, to be honest.
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
I do, but you can only read it after we’re friends, for security reasons… it’s linked on my profile.
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
It’s up to date. I’m not sure how useful it is, though it does have the aforementioned link.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I lack self-confidence, no matter how I may come across in writing, so please don’t virtually yell at me. (Disagree politely, yes, yell no.)
This doesn’t mean I don’t have strong views on things, however, you don’t have to agree with me on everything. I would rather you believed I mean well (because I do) though. See: disagree politely.
I am very very ill. This affects everything about my life.
I’m more cheerful than points 1-3 make me sound!
You mostly write about:
Illness stuff (I am mostly bedbound and have ME, hEDS, and ulcerative colitis as my main current issues)
Family stuff (I have a teen son I think is brilliant, a currently slightly complicated relationship with some of my family, a lovely spouse)
Political stuff (UK politics, world affairs, trans issues, climate things)
Writing stuff (articles I write, fanfic stuff)
You never or very rarely write about:
TV or computer games
Going out and doing things
Book reviews
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
Mostly locked
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
I do use filters, though not very often.
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Every few days on the whole.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
No
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Being able to get my thoughts and feelings out about things when I don’t want to burden my family with the, (so you get all my angst, lucky you!), meeting new people and learning about their lives (I’ve “met” some of my closest friends through DW and LJ, and actually later met many of them IRL as well)
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
Every few days
You really enjoy reading about:
People’s lives, and also their thoughts and feelings about things.
You have very little interest in reading about:
Cars, computer games, technical details about something, television and film
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
I don’t mind, but I’d rather they weren’t the main bulk of everything
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
either, though I like to know people are there and they care and I’m not boring/annoying them.
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
How do you know they’re reading you regularly if they don’t comment much? Do you, like, check up on their IP address? (I’ve never bothered finding out how to do that, though I’m sure I could.) If people comment occasionally, or I post something saying I’m thinking of doing a cut and people should comment if they want to stay, and they comment at that point, then I would keep them.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I comment when I’ve got something to say, and I try and comment occasionally on most folk so that they know I’m there and I care, but I don’t comment all the time.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
Usually they unfriend me, tbh! But I’d usually just unfriend if it was very early on - like, if we’d friended each other and then realised we were *very* different and it was a disaster waiting to happen. I think I’d rather someone just quietly faded at the beginning. If it was someone I thought I was genuine friends with and we’d been commenting on each other’s journals regularly, I’d prefer they sent a note, but I have accepted it otherwise.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
Um, I do occasionally write about Harry Potter, despite disliking the author. I may occasionally write about the Chalet School but less often.
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
I have a terrible feeling this makes me sound like an awful person. I’ve kept lots of the friends I’ve made over the years journaling, so hopefully I can’t be that dreadful? 🧚🏻🩷
I don’t know how interesting it is, but when I was 8 years old, a friend and I had a long running game in which we were twin princesses. She was Sarita and I was Sabethea. I then reused the name in my teens when I realised I was a multiple, as one of my personalities. Then, when the internet started and I needed an alias, it seemed like an obvious one, and I’ve been using it online since the beginning of the internet, which is… quite scary, really.
Location and language(s):
UK, and English only, alas
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
I’m in my 40s, but will friend anyone 18+
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
If you are racist, homophobic, transphobic, very right-wing, a climate change denier, always absolutely certain you are right and the other person is wrong… all of these are going to make you dislike me greatly. And probably vice versa, to be honest.
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
I do, but you can only read it after we’re friends, for security reasons… it’s linked on my profile.
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
It’s up to date. I’m not sure how useful it is, though it does have the aforementioned link.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I lack self-confidence, no matter how I may come across in writing, so please don’t virtually yell at me. (Disagree politely, yes, yell no.)
This doesn’t mean I don’t have strong views on things, however, you don’t have to agree with me on everything. I would rather you believed I mean well (because I do) though. See: disagree politely.
I am very very ill. This affects everything about my life.
I’m more cheerful than points 1-3 make me sound!
You mostly write about:
Illness stuff (I am mostly bedbound and have ME, hEDS, and ulcerative colitis as my main current issues)
Family stuff (I have a teen son I think is brilliant, a currently slightly complicated relationship with some of my family, a lovely spouse)
Political stuff (UK politics, world affairs, trans issues, climate things)
Writing stuff (articles I write, fanfic stuff)
You never or very rarely write about:
TV or computer games
Going out and doing things
Book reviews
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
Mostly locked
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
I do use filters, though not very often.
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Every few days on the whole.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
No
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Being able to get my thoughts and feelings out about things when I don’t want to burden my family with the, (so you get all my angst, lucky you!), meeting new people and learning about their lives (I’ve “met” some of my closest friends through DW and LJ, and actually later met many of them IRL as well)
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
Every few days
You really enjoy reading about:
People’s lives, and also their thoughts and feelings about things.
You have very little interest in reading about:
Cars, computer games, technical details about something, television and film
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
I don’t mind, but I’d rather they weren’t the main bulk of everything
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
either, though I like to know people are there and they care and I’m not boring/annoying them.
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
How do you know they’re reading you regularly if they don’t comment much? Do you, like, check up on their IP address? (I’ve never bothered finding out how to do that, though I’m sure I could.) If people comment occasionally, or I post something saying I’m thinking of doing a cut and people should comment if they want to stay, and they comment at that point, then I would keep them.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I comment when I’ve got something to say, and I try and comment occasionally on most folk so that they know I’m there and I care, but I don’t comment all the time.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
Usually they unfriend me, tbh! But I’d usually just unfriend if it was very early on - like, if we’d friended each other and then realised we were *very* different and it was a disaster waiting to happen. I think I’d rather someone just quietly faded at the beginning. If it was someone I thought I was genuine friends with and we’d been commenting on each other’s journals regularly, I’d prefer they sent a note, but I have accepted it otherwise.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
Um, I do occasionally write about Harry Potter, despite disliking the author. I may occasionally write about the Chalet School but less often.
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
I have a terrible feeling this makes me sound like an awful person. I’ve kept lots of the friends I’ve made over the years journaling, so hopefully I can’t be that dreadful? 🧚🏻🩷
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Date: 2023-12-16 07:07 am (UTC)