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findingfriends2019-06-10 05:12 pm
the_siobhan) wrote in findingfriends2019-06-10 05:12 pm
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introducing the_siobhan
Is there an interesting story behind your username?
Back in ye olden dayes of Usenet I was once involved in putting together a music festival-slash-meetup for the alt.gothic newsgroup. (Said event is still going on, I worked on years 4 & 8, and think this year was number 25.)
Anyway back in those days not everybody was online and Usenet and IRC were the main gathering places for people with similar interests, so being involved in the event meant that most of the net.goths knew who I was. I went on a trip to San Francisco and I was introduced to a woman at a club who immediately did a double-take and said, "Wait, are you the Siobhan?
I thought that was hysterical and it's been my username ever since.
Location and language(s):
Toronto, Ontario, Canada. English. I am slowly and painfully trying to teach myself Spanish. (And I do mean painfully, I suck at languages.)
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
50's!
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Racism, sexism, ableism, transphobia, anything along those lines.
Any science denial, by which I mean I don't care if somebody is religious but a large portion of my country is on fire, so if they tries to argue climate change isn't real I will probably yell at them. I just lost my immune-compromised partner to the flu, so if somebody tries to argue anti-vaccine I will yell at them VERY LOUDLY and then probably cry for a while.
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Nope! I know I should probably write one! I know I never will!
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
Up to date, yes. Useful, not so much. As in it's just as empty as it's always been.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I'm queer & polyam and will mention multiple partners in my posts.
I have chronic depression and so my posts tend to be a bit... fatalistic I guess? I don't go on about terrible my life is or anything like that, but it does tend to colour how I express myself.
I have very strong political opinions. Again, I don't post a ton about specific political events but it does colour my worldview and that will come out in my posts.
You mostly write about:
My life. Things I'm thinking about, things that catch my interest.
You never or very rarely write about:
Sports. I genuinely have no clue about any of it.
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
99% public. The very few locked posts are usually posts in progress or for private conversations with specific people.
On the plus side that means if you skim my entries you can pretty much see what I'm about.
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
I don't filter, but I do tag everything.
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Alas the era of having time to post every day is long behind me. I try to post weekly at the minimum but even that tends to slide - I mostly post from work and sometimes I'm just too busy. The depression doesn't help with that.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Rarely. I do the odd meme because it gives me something to talk about when the well is dry and I will post photos if I'm travelling.
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
I got into it because it was a great place to have conversations. I keep it up now because it's still the best format for lengthy posts. I hate Facebook like poison and twitter is not a great format for anything but quick check-ins.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
Daily
You really enjoy reading about:
Pretty much everything as long as it's actually coming from the person posting and not just endless reblogs. Daily updates about life or philosophical musings, it's all good.
You have very little interest in reading about:
Sports. The latest celebrity news. Diets.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
A little goes a long way.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Both are good.
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
I just unfriend. I friend people pretty fast and then just move on if we don't click. Likewise if somebody unfriends me I just assume I am not their cup of tea and I don't worry about it.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
I do a regular post about what books I have read recently and keep a count through the year. Those are tagged and the contents are behind a cut so they are easy to skip.
Other than that I don't really write about media unless it brings up some other thoughts I want to noodle on.
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
Like I said, my journal is public so feel free to friend, I'll friend you back and we'll see how it goes.
[Edited to Add] I should probably warn people. I swear like a trucker.
Back in ye olden dayes of Usenet I was once involved in putting together a music festival-slash-meetup for the alt.gothic newsgroup. (Said event is still going on, I worked on years 4 & 8, and think this year was number 25.)
Anyway back in those days not everybody was online and Usenet and IRC were the main gathering places for people with similar interests, so being involved in the event meant that most of the net.goths knew who I was. I went on a trip to San Francisco and I was introduced to a woman at a club who immediately did a double-take and said, "Wait, are you the Siobhan?
I thought that was hysterical and it's been my username ever since.
Location and language(s):
Toronto, Ontario, Canada. English. I am slowly and painfully trying to teach myself Spanish. (And I do mean painfully, I suck at languages.)
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
50's!
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Racism, sexism, ableism, transphobia, anything along those lines.
Any science denial, by which I mean I don't care if somebody is religious but a large portion of my country is on fire, so if they tries to argue climate change isn't real I will probably yell at them. I just lost my immune-compromised partner to the flu, so if somebody tries to argue anti-vaccine I will yell at them VERY LOUDLY and then probably cry for a while.
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Nope! I know I should probably write one! I know I never will!
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
Up to date, yes. Useful, not so much. As in it's just as empty as it's always been.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I'm queer & polyam and will mention multiple partners in my posts.
I have chronic depression and so my posts tend to be a bit... fatalistic I guess? I don't go on about terrible my life is or anything like that, but it does tend to colour how I express myself.
I have very strong political opinions. Again, I don't post a ton about specific political events but it does colour my worldview and that will come out in my posts.
You mostly write about:
My life. Things I'm thinking about, things that catch my interest.
You never or very rarely write about:
Sports. I genuinely have no clue about any of it.
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
99% public. The very few locked posts are usually posts in progress or for private conversations with specific people.
On the plus side that means if you skim my entries you can pretty much see what I'm about.
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
I don't filter, but I do tag everything.
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Alas the era of having time to post every day is long behind me. I try to post weekly at the minimum but even that tends to slide - I mostly post from work and sometimes I'm just too busy. The depression doesn't help with that.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Rarely. I do the odd meme because it gives me something to talk about when the well is dry and I will post photos if I'm travelling.
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
I got into it because it was a great place to have conversations. I keep it up now because it's still the best format for lengthy posts. I hate Facebook like poison and twitter is not a great format for anything but quick check-ins.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
Daily
You really enjoy reading about:
Pretty much everything as long as it's actually coming from the person posting and not just endless reblogs. Daily updates about life or philosophical musings, it's all good.
You have very little interest in reading about:
Sports. The latest celebrity news. Diets.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
A little goes a long way.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Both are good.
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
I don't unfriend people for not commenting. At some point I will eventually go through my reading list and realize that half the journals have been deactivated, and then I'll take them off.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I never do it as much as I intend to for the same reason I don't post as much as I intend to. Eventually enough time will pass that I'll get embarrassed and I never will finish the comment that sitting half-finished in my drafts.When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
I just unfriend. I friend people pretty fast and then just move on if we don't click. Likewise if somebody unfriends me I just assume I am not their cup of tea and I don't worry about it.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
I do a regular post about what books I have read recently and keep a count through the year. Those are tagged and the contents are behind a cut so they are easy to skip.
Other than that I don't really write about media unless it brings up some other thoughts I want to noodle on.
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
Like I said, my journal is public so feel free to friend, I'll friend you back and we'll see how it goes.
[Edited to Add] I should probably warn people. I swear like a trucker.