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findingfriendsIs there an interesting story behind your username?
Not really. It just combines two of my favorite things: cats and writing/editing. It came with me from my previous journaling home (IJ) when I came over to DW years ago. And I kept it.
Location and language(s):
I live in the USA, in roughly the middle of the country. (But was born and raised on the east coast).
English only, for both spoken and written.
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
40s.
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
I'm just going to be super candidly honest here:
- I hate politics. I refuse to talk about them, and I do not consider myself a member of any political party. So if you are heavily into politics (either side) or talk about it other than once in a while in passing, we're probably not going to have much in common.
- Also, I am child free by choice. So if you have kids, and that makes up a large part of your life and journal (as it rightly should, don't get me wrong), we probably aren't going to have much in common or whatever.
- And I feel like I shouldn't even have to put this, but I will: I have no tolerance for homophobia and homophobic people. (Have occasionally had the experience where people assume just because I'm straight, I won't have a problem with them being homophobic. Which is odd and disturbing.)
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Sort. of. I have a FO post here with some friendly rules: https://feline-scribe.dreamwidth.org/4090.html
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
Yeah, it's pretty up to date. How useful it is, I leave up to you to decide.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
- I absolutely hate any sort of animal abuse or neglect. I love my pets dearly, and honest to gawd, like animals more than I like 95% of the people I know or meet in the world. If I had the money, I'd have my own cat sanctuary just so I could care for every stray I'll ever come across.
- I am a big believer in taking care of yourself and your own mental health. Which means I think everyone has the right to nope-the-hell-away-from anything they feel is triggering, no judgement allowed. But the converse of that is also, you get to nope the hell away, without whining about having to nope the hell away. Just do it.
- I'm not super social. I get enough human interaction at work. And I do enjoy journaling and interacting with folks on DW. Beyond that, IRL I mostly only interact with my pets and family.
You mostly write about:
My life? My pets, my family, my hobbies, that kind of thing. Nothing really fannish, other than possibly a passing mention of something I watched or read or heard that I liked.
You never or very rarely write about:
I feel like I'm repeating myself here. But, basically, politics or religion.
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
It's basically locked, other than the FO post linked to above.
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
No, sorry. It's pretty much a free for all.
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
It can really vary a lot. This past year as pretty much been a shit-show. And I think that lead to me posting on average like once a month? But I'm really trying to get back into journaling on a more regular basis. But also knowing myself, I think the realistic expectation would be once a week, with maybe a few extra posts here and there.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Memes sometimes, sure. Once in a while photos. I can't remember the last linkspam I did? Probably like 5+ years ago or something?
But I do post links to things I find interesting, in passing.
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
I enjoy writing, making note of things. I enjoy interacting with others.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
See above re: my posting frequency. I'm going to try to commit to at least weekly for both posting and reading. But life happens sometimes.
You really enjoy reading about:
People's lives, their pets, their hobbies, that kind of thing. I'm not particularly fannish myself, but I'm also totally capable of just scrolling by things if they don't interest me. So like, don't let my complete lack of fannish-ness put you off.
You have very little interest in reading about:
Children. Politics. Religion. Substance abuse, in any form.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
It's your journal. Do you want with it. :-) I can happily scroll past if I'm not interested.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Umm.. neither exactly? I don't keep track of how often people comment (quantity), and I'm not out to judge the "quality" of people's comments (not even sure how I would do that?). I would just say I appreciate if folks want to leave a comment, and interact with me. And I totally understand there are times when you have nothing to say. I guess I'd get pretty weirded out if someone never commented, but so long as you interact once in a while, we're good?
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
I don't un-friend based on commenting (how often). Honestly, if I unfriend, it's because we haven't "clicked", and/or I just reach a point where I don't seem to read that persons posts any more (find myself scrolling past them continually). Or the journal goes dormant and the person never posts any more. (Generally, unless we've really clicked, if I see a journal hasn't been updated in 6 months, I'll consider it dormant and unfriend.)
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
If I have something to say, I will say it. If I don't, I won't.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
I unfriend without warning. And I totally invite others to do the same. Journaling is a hobby, and a relaxation, and about enjoyment. In order to remain all three of those, it has to be drama free. So I totally accept and have no problem with folks unfriending me a will; and I will do the same. No explanations needed.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
I may talk about a book I've recently read, or a movie I watched or a CD I listed to. But it's never anything I think is all that fannish.
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
If you think you might like to give being friends a try, just leave a comment on this post, ok?
- I will freely own up to being sarcastic.
- And I freely admit I have my bitchy moments, too (but then again, I don't have a problem with being bitchy at times... in my family we've been known to use the word bitch as an endearment... LOL)
- Oh, and it would be nice to have more friends around my own age, folks in their 30's / 40s / 50s. The older I get, the less I seem to have in common with folks in their 20s. That said, if you're in your 20s and think we'd enjoy reading each other, I'll be glad to give it a shot.
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Date: 2019-06-12 08:47 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2019-06-13 02:20 pm (UTC)I'm going to add you now.
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Date: 2019-06-13 12:00 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2019-06-13 02:17 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2019-06-13 04:26 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2019-06-13 10:53 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2019-06-13 02:23 pm (UTC)We seem to have lots in common :)
Date: 2019-06-15 09:34 pm (UTC)Add me?
Re: We seem to have lots in common :)
Date: 2019-06-19 03:01 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2019-07-02 11:19 am (UTC)I also get more than enough social interaction at work, and don't socialise much otherwise.. I end each working day feeling that I can't wait to escape to the internet once I get home.
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Date: 2019-07-02 05:19 pm (UTC)