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findingfriends2022-03-29 04:12 pm
smittenbyu) wrote in findingfriends2022-03-29 04:12 pm
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Is there an interesting story behind your username?
I think it was college, a friend had nicknamed me Smitten (Smitha is hard to nickname - so it evolved from Smithi, to Smitty, to what sounded like Smitten)... and then I looked up if it meant anything and when found it did, well, it had to be done smitten-by-you! ^_^ so that was my creativity back in the 90s/early 2000s! ;)
Location and language(s):I currently live in Arlington VA, but grew up outside Hyderabad (India), Rome (Italy), Singapore, Honolulu (USA), Kuala Lumpur (Malaysia) before landing here 14 years ago. I call Bangalore home as well.
Age range (e.g., 20s, 30s, etc.):40s
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:I haven't unfriended anyone - at least didn't initiate it. I will probably at some point, if I notice unfriend those who have unfriended me.
Deal breakers are the usual stuff that falls under racists, jerks, anti-science, etc. Likely to unfriend me before I even bother. I do think, most of us think we are not racist, but I do tire of folks who don't take time to reflect about the biases they have and then talk about reverse-racism - that likely would be my deal breaker. Because that's not how this works. Library is a wonderful resource. I am more patient, in person, but LJ/DW is where I come to vent and not have to explain/educate.
Do you have an “About Me” post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? yes. It's in the profile - a more detailed one is for those who add me / add me back.
Is your profile up to date or at all useful? it's up to date. Whether it's useful or not - that's determined by the reader, no? So, you let me know! ;)
List a few things you think it’s important new friends know about you right away:
You mostly write about: my life, my observations, current events that affect me, travel / weekend activities
You never or very rarely write about: my marriage/relationship stuff. I occasionally write/complain about N here. But I try not to too much, as he doesn't get to share his side of the story. And well, guess there are parts that I keep private.
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? Mostly friends-only. Every now and then there's a public post. No reason. Just became a habit.
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g., fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?I used to do that on LJ. But I don't have the energy. Now, I try to keep the topics in the subject line, so people can skip if not interested.
Your posting frequency (e.g., daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):It's been quite frequent Jan-Mar - almost daily in March. I think in the summer it tapers off a bit and picks up in late fall.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc.? surveys, like this - it's a break from work. :D Photos - I do her photo a day prompts. And every now and then I will remember to share it here.
What do you enjoy most about journaling? It's a place for me to keep track of what I did. Every now and then I will pick a random day from the past to see what I was doing. :) I do love seeing comments to - I learn so much.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g., daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
I try to read a little everyday. But really, whenever I have time.
You really enjoy reading about: People's lives. I love reading people's stories. What is going through their minds. Their struggles, thoughts, life.
You have very little interest in reading about: fandom things. Even if it is about something I like, I probably skim through it or skip it entirely. I like reading about people and their journeys through life.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc.? I like photos. And I will take a look at the others. I don't have thoughts. I know this is a space that serves different purposes for folks and so, take it or leave it, right?
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more—quality or quantity? Quality. It's nice to get a comment at least once a year (?) just to know who is reading. But really, I don't keep track of that.
Do you unfriend people who don’t comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? How would I know if they are reading my journal regularly if they don't comment? So, yeah - I don't unfriend since I wouldn't know.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? I comment when I make a connection, have something to say, or when I feel something. I probably don't comment as much as I want to. But I do read and catch up on posts - then I might not comment as much.
When you friend someone, but things don’t really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? With the handful of times I have unfriended someone - I haven't told them I was. They probably hadn't noticed and if they asked, I would share - just likely we didn't connect. And that's fine.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren’t things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about—not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?I do write about books I read and shows/movies that I watch. I don't want to list that here.
Any final thoughts you’d like to share with new friends?
I think it was college, a friend had nicknamed me Smitten (Smitha is hard to nickname - so it evolved from Smithi, to Smitty, to what sounded like Smitten)... and then I looked up if it meant anything and when found it did, well, it had to be done smitten-by-you! ^_^ so that was my creativity back in the 90s/early 2000s! ;)
Location and language(s):I currently live in Arlington VA, but grew up outside Hyderabad (India), Rome (Italy), Singapore, Honolulu (USA), Kuala Lumpur (Malaysia) before landing here 14 years ago. I call Bangalore home as well.
Age range (e.g., 20s, 30s, etc.):40s
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:I haven't unfriended anyone - at least didn't initiate it. I will probably at some point, if I notice unfriend those who have unfriended me.
Deal breakers are the usual stuff that falls under racists, jerks, anti-science, etc. Likely to unfriend me before I even bother. I do think, most of us think we are not racist, but I do tire of folks who don't take time to reflect about the biases they have and then talk about reverse-racism - that likely would be my deal breaker. Because that's not how this works. Library is a wonderful resource. I am more patient, in person, but LJ/DW is where I come to vent and not have to explain/educate.
Do you have an “About Me” post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? yes. It's in the profile - a more detailed one is for those who add me / add me back.
Is your profile up to date or at all useful? it's up to date. Whether it's useful or not - that's determined by the reader, no? So, you let me know! ;)
List a few things you think it’s important new friends know about you right away:
- N is my husband, D is my 11.5yo daughter.
- A lot of the stuff I share here is probably stuff you wouldn't hear from me right off the bat, if we met in person. I am rather soft-spoken and I am not as open in person / speak my mind if we were to randomly meet somewhere. I do tend to surprise people (in person) - I look younger than I am; I don't fit their image of an Indian / Latina / Black / Muslim / Arab - I have been guessed as all the above different times in my life. I am Indian in origin, but a mix of all the places I have lived in. My education is very American-centric - which bugs me and amuses me.
You mostly write about: my life, my observations, current events that affect me, travel / weekend activities
You never or very rarely write about: my marriage/relationship stuff. I occasionally write/complain about N here. But I try not to too much, as he doesn't get to share his side of the story. And well, guess there are parts that I keep private.
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? Mostly friends-only. Every now and then there's a public post. No reason. Just became a habit.
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g., fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?I used to do that on LJ. But I don't have the energy. Now, I try to keep the topics in the subject line, so people can skip if not interested.
Your posting frequency (e.g., daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):It's been quite frequent Jan-Mar - almost daily in March. I think in the summer it tapers off a bit and picks up in late fall.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc.? surveys, like this - it's a break from work. :D Photos - I do her photo a day prompts. And every now and then I will remember to share it here.
What do you enjoy most about journaling? It's a place for me to keep track of what I did. Every now and then I will pick a random day from the past to see what I was doing. :) I do love seeing comments to - I learn so much.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g., daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
I try to read a little everyday. But really, whenever I have time.
You really enjoy reading about: People's lives. I love reading people's stories. What is going through their minds. Their struggles, thoughts, life.
You have very little interest in reading about: fandom things. Even if it is about something I like, I probably skim through it or skip it entirely. I like reading about people and their journeys through life.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc.? I like photos. And I will take a look at the others. I don't have thoughts. I know this is a space that serves different purposes for folks and so, take it or leave it, right?
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more—quality or quantity? Quality. It's nice to get a comment at least once a year (?) just to know who is reading. But really, I don't keep track of that.
Do you unfriend people who don’t comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? How would I know if they are reading my journal regularly if they don't comment? So, yeah - I don't unfriend since I wouldn't know.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? I comment when I make a connection, have something to say, or when I feel something. I probably don't comment as much as I want to. But I do read and catch up on posts - then I might not comment as much.
When you friend someone, but things don’t really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? With the handful of times I have unfriended someone - I haven't told them I was. They probably hadn't noticed and if they asked, I would share - just likely we didn't connect. And that's fine.
AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren’t things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about—not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?I do write about books I read and shows/movies that I watch. I don't want to list that here.
Any final thoughts you’d like to share with new friends?
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