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Is there an interesting story behind your username? Not really. I dig the song, and I was in a future punk phase lol.

Location and language(s): Canada, English. Trying to learn Spanish.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): Late 30s.

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: I will let you know when/if this becomes relevant. Outside of the general rule of trying your dang best to not be an asshole, I honestly try and give people a chance.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? Yes, its the same post as my Friends Only post.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? Absolutely useless, has nothing important in it at all except some interests. Check the friends only post, lol.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: Genderfluid, living with mental illness & disabilities. I have really amazing people that I am working with and spent a lot of years working on it. Everything else will probably come in time?

You mostly write about: Day to day life, reflections, thoughts, plans, hopes, dreams. Things I'm working on, projects, interests.

You never or very rarely write about: Not much of a fandom person so probably not any fanfiction, fanart, or anything like that.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? Almost exclusively locked.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)? I don't.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): It really fluctuates!

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? Not really. I might end up posting links to my vlogs and reaction channel when/if I ever get that up and running again, people are more than welcome to ignore it. May post a photo here and there but I haven't done a meme in a hot minute. Sometimes they're fun?

What do you enjoy most about journaling? Its a great way to document what is going on, release stress and let things out, and in a community journaling aspect its also a great way to connect with people on a deeper manner than what a lot of modern social media offers.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? Every few days I try to check in.

You really enjoy reading about: What everyone is up to! Honestly, I just like getting to know what is going on in peoples lives, what they are doing, etc.

You have very little interest in reading about: shrugs. If something doesn't tickle me, I just move past it.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? Its fine for the most part. If its NOTHING but those things then I might have less interest as I want to find more connection and read about what's happening in peoples lives and the things they're up to. A little though, no problem. Sometimes memes and links and stuff help you get to know people more!

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? Quality. Comment what you feel and however it rocks for you.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? No.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? If I have something to say, I say it.

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? Depends. If we don't click at all and hardly know one another then I will probably just unfriend. If we've gotten to know one another somewhat well and things are not clicking all of a sudden, then I might try and talk to them first.

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Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general? At the moment, not really. I might talk about some music I like or a show/movie I watched that I enjoyed if I feel like I have something to talk about regarding them but I can't think about anything in particular right now.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? Hello, and I hope we can become friends!!

toothpastepancake

Is there an interesting story behind your username? I'm a binturong therian. :P

Location and language(s): USA, English, learning Spanish. I will be moving to Central America soon.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.) mid 20s.

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: I am pro-Palestine, pro-trans women, and against all forms of bigotry. I am also against censorship of and harassment over fiction. If you disagree, I don't necessarily know if my journal is the place for you... sorry.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? I sort of do? I really should make an in-depth one, one of these days, but I already post a lot and I don't want to spam people's reading pages...

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? Sorta. It's kind of brief.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
1) I'm a plural system, so I have memory loss & other alters post here too
2) I'm neurodivergent sometimes I act odd or don't get social cues/misunderstand things
3) I'm half a fandom journal and half a personal one, and I have some darker fictional interests
4) I talk about spiritual stuff & being a psychic medium sometimes, it is real to me. I understand skepticism but please, don't be rude about this.

You mostly write about: My life, my creative work, complaining, fictosexuality & alterhumanity, plurality, disability justice, fandom stuff, spirituality

You never or very rarely write about: Triggering content that isn't warned for and under a cut; uhhh other than that you might see anything. I try not to post "discourse" or arguments/controversial topics though. But I am an opinionated person so sometimes it does slip through.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? It is access locked.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)? No.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): I post at the very least every week.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? Eh sorta. I post photography sometimes. I want to start posting linkspams of things I find interesting. I also post memes sometimes.

What do you enjoy most about journaling? I like how private it can be while still giving me the ability to interact with others. I like how it gives me the ability to make connections with people that feel more genuine and personal than connections made on mainstream internet websites. Everyone is so nice!

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? I check my reading page multiple times a day. I'm trying to make DW my main platform so I'm on here a lot... :')

You really enjoy reading about: Any kind of fandom thoughts, any kind of stuff about an individual's creative work, deep thoughts

You have very little interest in reading about: Just anything closed-minded

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? ...You do you?

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? I don't care I just like hearing from people!

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? No! Comments are optional for me. While I enjoy them, I just like talking on here in general, it's not a requirement.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? I don't know... I just try to be respectful? Is there a particular approach I should have? I'm still kinda new here :')

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? I don't usually tell people unless they ask for it. I don't care if people tell me or not. I would prefer to know, so I don't forget in the future and add you back, but it's whatever.

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Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?

Yeah. I frequently post about: The Orville, Babylon 5, Doom Patrol.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?

I'd love to meet anyone who isn't put off by any of the above and make new friends!!!

theradicalchild

Since my friends list is becoming a wasteland...

Is there an interesting story behind your username? A play on my first name.

Location and language(s): Central Texas, English

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): Turned 40 this January.

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: Politics. While I think I'm more open-minded than before, I far more prefer discussion focused solely on issues and events rather than politicians than groups, and am very sensitive about the rhetoric used.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? Yes, my sticky journal header and my recent political posts so you can get an idea of how I like to discuss politics and current events.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? Up-to-date regarding my interests, and I'll try to work on a new bio, but I'm super ADHD now and need to find the time.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: I'm a high-functioning autistic who has faced severe psychological abuse from my family and am trying to get out of my toxic household.

You mostly write about: What grinds my gears at the moment.

You never or very rarely write about: Things I don't care about.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? Mixed.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)? I don't use filters, but with political posts, I try to include a "trigger warning" in the subject.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): Depends upon how I feel, since I'm at a juncture in my life and need to get my mind in order.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? It depends.

What do you enjoy most about journaling? Being able to say what I want and discussing my views with people who are like-minded.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? I try to do so daily.

You really enjoy reading about: Anything that piques my interests.

You have very little interest in reading about: Things that trigger me.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? I don't mind as long as they don't trigger me.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? A mixture of both.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? No.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? I try to be diplomatic and as civil as possible, even when I disagree with others' opinions.

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? If something they say triggers me, I try to indicate they upset me yet be as diplomatic as possible and just unwatch them while letting them still comment in my journal.

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general? I have a lot of favorites but tend only to write about them in intelligent reviews.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? As long as you aren't mean in how you express your views or to me, we can definitely be friends.

Current Mood: hopeful

bewilderedbird

Is there an interesting story behind your username?
BewilderedBird just stems from the fact that I like birds and I often feel very confused about the state of the world. Marin is the first "real" and actually developed character I ever came up with when I was ten and her name became my nick name.

Location and language(s):
Germany | German and English, I hope to learn more one day

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
30s (35)

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Being extremely political (left or right or whatever), discriminatory in any way. Generally being an asshole. We can talk about anything, just be civil about it.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Yes, just made one!

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
Don't know if it's useful but it should be up-to-date.

List a few things you think are important new friends know about you right away:
See my intro post:
- Mostly asexual, so not interested in explicit NSFW stuff, but anything romantic, nudity included, is fine
- Non-political as I see Dreamwidth as a refuge from the horrors of the world.
- I dealt with severe depression and anxiety during my teenage and early adult years and while it got a lot better it still affects me in certain situations and so might be a topic I write about

You mostly write about:
I write more about my personal view on things, art, life as it happens and about memories than I do about fandoms or entertainment in general.

You never or very rarely write about:
Politics, fandoms.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
For now everything is public but I might lock posts in the future if I feel they contain information I don't want out in the open.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
If I delve deep into mental health or any other topics that I believe people might want to avoid, I will use cuts. Other than that, not really.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Every few days if I'm in a very good mood, otherwise weekly.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
No.

What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Taking the time to formulate your thoughts. Social media trained us to be fast, to never have time for anything, to have a short attention span. Journaling is the exact opposite and I feel like it's meditation for the brain sometimes. You simply get to know yourself better.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
Daily.

You really enjoy reading about:
Just the lives of different people, what others enjoy, what they avoid, what their hobbies are, their dreams and wishes, their fears, their achievements and their thoughts about life. And if there's art or general creativity involved in any capacity, I enjoy that even more.

You have very little interest in reading about:
Politics, fandoms.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Not my cup of tea if that's all there is. I love memes, photos, etc, but I don't want to be bombarded.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Quality. But if you just have a one-word-comment because you can't think of anything, that's completely fine.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
No, never. Please don't feel pressured into commenting. If you just enjoy reading, that makes me so happy.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I'm very introverted and have a hard time being social, although it got a lot better over the past years. But more often than not, I don't really know what to add to a topic. I read every entry though!

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
If we had a good relationship beforehand, I will write a note but if we never really interacted I will just unfriend. You can handle that in any way you prefer. No judgment.

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
I only write about media if it impacts me and even then maybe once or twice and that's it. My hyper hyper fandom phase is behind me.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
If you are very shy or anxious but still want to add me, don't feel the need to comment here. Just go ahead and I'll take a look at your profile and posts to see if I'll add you back :)

Current Mood: calm

smittenbyu

Is there an interesting story behind your username?
I think it was college, a friend had nicknamed me Smitten (Smitha is hard to nickname - so it evolved from Smithi, to Smitty, to what sounded like Smitten)... and then I looked up if it meant anything and when found it did, well, it had to be done smitten-by-you! ^_^ so that was my creativity back in the 90s/early 2000s! ;)

Location and language(s):I currently live in Arlington VA, but grew up outside Hyderabad (India), Rome (Italy), Singapore, Honolulu (USA), Kuala Lumpur (Malaysia) before landing here 14 years ago. I call Bangalore home as well.

Age range (e.g., 20s, 30s, etc.):40s

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:I haven't unfriended anyone - at least didn't initiate it. I will probably at some point, if I notice unfriend those who have unfriended me.

Deal breakers are the usual stuff that falls under racists, jerks, anti-science, etc. Likely to unfriend me before I even bother. I do think, most of us think we are not racist, but I do tire of folks who don't take time to reflect about the biases they have and then talk about reverse-racism - that likely would be my deal breaker. Because that's not how this works. Library is a wonderful resource. I am more patient, in person, but LJ/DW is where I come to vent and not have to explain/educate.

Do you have an “About Me” post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? yes. It's in the profile - a more detailed one is for those who add me / add me back.

Is your profile up to date or at all useful? it's up to date. Whether it's useful or not - that's determined by the reader, no? So, you let me know! ;)

List a few things you think it’s important new friends know about you right away:

N is my husband, D is my 11.5yo daughter.

A lot of the stuff I share here is probably stuff you wouldn't hear from me right off the bat, if we met in person. I am rather soft-spoken and I am not as open in person / speak my mind if we were to randomly meet somewhere. I do tend to surprise people (in person) - I look younger than I am; I don't fit their image of an Indian / Latina / Black / Muslim / Arab - I have been guessed as all the above different times in my life. I am Indian in origin, but a mix of all the places I have lived in. My education is very American-centric - which bugs me and amuses me.

You mostly write about: my life, my observations, current events that affect me, travel / weekend activities

You never or very rarely write about: my marriage/relationship stuff. I occasionally write/complain about N here. But I try not to too much, as he doesn't get to share his side of the story. And well, guess there are parts that I keep private.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? Mostly friends-only. Every now and then there's a public post. No reason. Just became a habit.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g., fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?I used to do that on LJ. But I don't have the energy. Now, I try to keep the topics in the subject line, so people can skip if not interested.

Your posting frequency (e.g., daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):It's been quite frequent Jan-Mar - almost daily in March. I think in the summer it tapers off a bit and picks up in late fall.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc.? surveys, like this - it's a break from work. :D Photos - I do her photo a day prompts. And every now and then I will remember to share it here.

What do you enjoy most about journaling? It's a place for me to keep track of what I did. Every now and then I will pick a random day from the past to see what I was doing. :) I do love seeing comments to - I learn so much.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g., daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
I try to read a little everyday. But really, whenever I have time.

You really enjoy reading about: People's lives. I love reading people's stories. What is going through their minds. Their struggles, thoughts, life.

You have very little interest in reading about: fandom things. Even if it is about something I like, I probably skim through it or skip it entirely. I like reading about people and their journeys through life.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc.? I like photos. And I will take a look at the others. I don't have thoughts. I know this is a space that serves different purposes for folks and so, take it or leave it, right?

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more—quality or quantity? Quality. It's nice to get a comment at least once a year (?) just to know who is reading. But really, I don't keep track of that.

Do you unfriend people who don’t comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? How would I know if they are reading my journal regularly if they don't comment? So, yeah - I don't unfriend since I wouldn't know.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? I comment when I make a connection, have something to say, or when I feel something. I probably don't comment as much as I want to. But I do read and catch up on posts - then I might not comment as much.

When you friend someone, but things don’t really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? With the handful of times I have unfriended someone - I haven't told them I was. They probably hadn't noticed and if they asked, I would share - just likely we didn't connect. And that's fine.

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Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren’t things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about—not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?I do write about books I read and shows/movies that I watch. I don't want to list that here.

Any final thoughts you’d like to share with new friends?

rhythmicflow

Is there an interesting story behind your username? I love words, I love the cadence and flow of poetry so rhythmicflow just seemed to fit
Location and language(s): I'm in England, and I speak English. I did German in high school but doubt I remember anything further than Ich heiße London Lee
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): early 40s
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: hate speech, censorship, telling me my life is wrong/how to live my life
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? see here
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? It's up-to-date, but I don't know how 'useful' it is
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: I am a genderfluid (she/they), poly (in two long-term committed relationships), pansexual, pagan, long-haired, Leo
You mostly write about/You never or very rarely write about: I don't know, but I'm excited to find out
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? I suspect it's going to be a mixture of both
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)? nope, and I don't know what that means
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): I'm planning on posting every few days, maybe 3-4 times a week
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? probably, yes!
What do you enjoy most about journaling? How it makes me thing about how I present myself using only words, how I'm forced to communicate more consisely and how it can connect people
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? Same as posting, every few days
You really enjoy reading about: people, their lives, their loves and their passions. Listening to someone speak about something they're passionate about, even if I know nothing about the subject, is a wonderful experience
You have very little interest in reading about: teen angst/drama, fanfiction, hate speech
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? I'm not a fan of linkspams, I'd rather know what you think of a topic. If a person is posting something that important/means something to them, and chooses visual media, then I want to see it.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? yes. Stroke my ego!
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? I don't think so. I'd certainly prefer people TO comment, interaction is part of the point of this community, but I also understand there are MANY reasons people don't/can't
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? If I have something to say, I'll say it.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? I think I would prefer the heads up, both giving and receiving.

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Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general? I'm not in fandom, per se. I love to read, especially horror, mystery, paranormal and urban fantasy - and list Cassandra Clare, Jim Butcher, JK Rowling, Patricia Briggs and Charlaine Harris among my favourite writers. TV/Movie wise I love Harry Potter, Sherlock, Good Omens, True Blood, Twilight, Shadowhunters, most Tim Burton.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? Not that I can think of. If there's anything you want to know, just ask and I'll probably tell you!

shadaras

Is there an interesting story behind your username?
Depends on your definition of interesting? Shadaras was one of my first OCs back when I was like eleven. She was a wolf-drake pledged to the god of death in the world that a friend and I had made up, but she wasn't part of the main storyline -- she was my OC who I told stories to myself about at night as I was going to sleep. I picked up her name as a username when I was first getting on the internet when I was 13, and never really gave it up. It's been the name I've held the longest, at this point.

Location and language(s):
New England, US. I only speak English.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
Mid-20s

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
gods, just, don't be a dick? If you're an asshole then I have no reason to engage with you.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
I do, but I could probably update it.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
It is probably useful? It is relatively recent/up-to-date.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I think anything I really care about is in my intro post, but for the sake of people skimming these:
- I'm queer and nonbinary
- I have a cat and I love her
- Star Wars is my oldest and most consistent fandom

You mostly write about:
My life, apparently? Which is not what I'd expected when I started being on DW, but here we are. Mostly this means talking about aikido, my cat, going on hikes, or tabletop gaming. I also talk about books/movies/shows/podcasts sometimes, and writing occasionally (though I participate in a fair amount of fannish fic exchanges, so those posts scatter throughout), but the most consistent thing is me talking about stuff I'm doing.

You never or very rarely write about:
As everyone's saying, I don't talk about politics.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
Mostly public. I only lock things that I consider private and don't want random strangers to see.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
that would take effort I am not interested in putting into my blogging life

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
More days than not, but not every day.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Generally not. I'll occasionally do some memes, usually writing-focused ones.

What do you enjoy most about journaling?
I like having a space to share things about myself and my life, and a record of what I've been up to. I like being able to talk to people and get to know them better.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
Does this mean reading page? I read it at least once a day, and often multiple times a day.

You really enjoy reading about:
I like hearing about peoples' lives! I also like reading what people have to say about what they've read, and seeing people get really into fandoms, even if they aren't ones I share (though that helps).

You have very little interest in reading about:
Negativity, when it's the only thing you seem to post. It's fine if it's, like, 'today my brain is bad' or 'today this shitty thing happened', but it's draining when it's the only thing you talk about, and I will stop reading.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
I very rarely watch videos and I find multiple gifs in quick succession overwhelming. I love seeing photos people take, though! Or art they've done of any sort! I always look at linkspams, though I don't always find something I'm interested in them. Memes are generally fun to read, and sometimes I'll borrow them too.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
I... don't care? Comment if you want to, don't if you don't want to? If I'm being thoughtful, responding in kind is nice, because it generates conversation, but a quick 'That's interesting to think about' makes me happy too.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
why is commenting a measure of value?
I often don't comment on folks' journals, and I am fully in support of others doing the same.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I'll do it if I have something I feel is interesting to say, or if I want to offer support. If you're doing a meme that requires folk to comment asking things, I will almost always do that, too. :)

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
Nah
Like, if I'm going to unsubscribe from someone, I'll just... do it. It takes forever for me to decide to do that, usually, and it usually is because whatever that person is interested in sharing isn't for me. And it doesn't need to be! It's their space, if if I don't wanna be in it, I won't.
(I also don't consider 'mutuals on the internet' to necessarily mean 'friend'; if you wanna be my friend you gotta talk to me and I gotta talk to you in return, y'know?)

AND LASTLY

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
shit, what do I actually talk about
Uh, Star Wars, predictably. Friends at the Table, an actual play tabletop podcast (which I should talk about more). Killjoys will start popping up soon. Star Trek: Discovery.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
I like people! People are great fun, and it's nice meeting new folk.

dreamwriteremmy

Is there an interesting story behind your username?

I have two main accounts here on dreamwidth, I am accepting friends requests on both accounts and they predominantly have very different content.

This one

dreamwriteremmy is my personal account, and its story spawns from a fairly niche but popular 2007-2014 LiveJournal self-insert Kingdom Hearts RPG series called World Refugees, which was a spin-off of the ever popular "Zombie Invasion Meme" going around at the time of creation. My character went by Emmy and originally used my old journal

ladybrighid3333. In 2009 I switched journals and chose this name because it was the name my character had chosen for herself in-game a a year or so earlier.

dreamwriters is our writing/art/public-fandom account. The story behind it is that it was a err... typographical error of sorts? XD Haha. We wrote a guest article for a Healthy Multiplicity by the plural friend currently running it a couple years ago as a part of the December Blogging Meme and as a request from a singlet (at least i think they were a singlet) with a plural friend looking for tips on ways to manage dissociation and time-weirdness, and at the time, all our sites used the tag "The DreamWriters Dreaming" and uh said plural friend didn't ask us for our system name tag and assumed that our system name was DreamWriters based on our website names. So, it kinda stuck and we decided it was too much of a hassle to correct them and why not? Superheroes can have 2 alteregos, why can't we? XD So Dreamers United became our personal overarching system name and The DreamWriters is the professional overarching alterego system name, which we use for business/advocacy purposes. And a couple years ago we corrected the username on this journal to be dreamwriters on all its mirrors. :D

Location and language(s):

northeastern massachusetts, currently Lowell MA. I speak predominantly English. I know some Spanish (used to be fluent but i don't remember a lot of it anymore), a tiny bit of Russian, a tiny bit of French-Canadian, a tiny bit of Cantonese Chinese, and a tiny bit of ASL. I'm currently only actively learning Cantonese and ASL, though.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
30s

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:Eh. Proselytizing in general for ANYTHING (I love my Jesus-loving friends and my non-Jesus Loving friends -- I'm a Unitarian Universalist and an eclectic religious syncretist. I blend spiritual beliefs under the umbrella of "most spiritual teachers taught Love". Witch and Healer is a part of my personal spirituality and no one is going to change that for me). Abusive behavior if I get a report from someone else that you ain't a good person. Sometimes we just don't click and i may unfriend you for that too, but generally i'll let you know and i'd appreciate that being mutual.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Sort-of but they're only semi-up-to-date. basically anything linked on the friends only post is fairly relevant.
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
so-so. it's a little outdated still. i haven't gotten around to fixing it up completely.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
We're plural. We are predominantly composed of fictives and factives (that means people based off fictional people and people based of RL people). We're disabled. We have mental health and learning challenges. We are cat people predominantly, though warming up to dogs. We're queer & an afab nonbinary femme. We are creatives and fandom people.
You mostly write about:
real life, innerlife, ranting, writing, to-do lists, fandom, cosplay, art, graphics, memes/quizzes, occasionally video posts.
You never or very rarely write about:
NSFW stuff on here, politics
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
a mix, but mostly locked
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
Yes. We have 3 requestable filters. We have the cheerleading filter which is a productivity filter -- you post your to-dos, and there's a subcomment thread for people to "cheer on" each other. You can request critiques, if you're doing a writing/art project, however critiques are opt-in on both ends. 😄 We have the In-System Personal Stories filter, which delves into fictive and factive trauma, squicky/taboo system stuff, and basically anything we don't feel comfortable making completely public at the time. The final filter is the Are You OK filter. Sporadically, we will post a comments disabled self-care checkin post that simply asks "Are You Okay? This is a gentle self-care reminder."
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
variable. Could be multiple times a day, could be once a month. It really depends on what's going on and whether i'm more on other social media.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Occasionally. Mostly memes/photos/videos. Occasionally linkspams and gifs. I always try to explain/image describe what most photos/gifs are.
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Getting shit out of our brain basically.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
I read daily. I may or may not comment. You may have to wait a week until I do my binge commenting spree on old posts.
You really enjoy reading about:
I"m open to anything tbh. I like daily posts reflecting on day. I like posts reflecting on fandom interests even if I don't share them.
You have very little interest in reading about:
Eh i'm not so interested in rl nsfw/kink filters, though i will read them. ❤️ I tend to personally keep my kink stuff on a separate journal entirely from both of the above because i have a couple kinks people have STRONG feelings about. Feel free to ask me in a DM, if you're interested in that one, but i'm really selective about who i add to the locked stuff on it TBH.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
perfectly fine!
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Neither tbh. I accept nonverbal/semiverbal/low-spoon commenters! See my commenting policy! :D
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
Not typically. See previous question's link.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I may or may not comment. I often look for a blogger's commenting policy, so if you have one I will ADORE you! Often, you may be waiting a week until I do my binge commenting spree.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
Typically, I will message you UNLESS you end up being the second deal breaker in which case I've been warned that you are not safe to interact with. If we don't click, please tell me you're leaving! That way I can remove you mutually.
AND LASTLY

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
Young Wizards series, Magic Ex Libris series, Harry Potter, anything Night Vale Presents podcasts/books, The Sims, The Rise of the Shield Hero, Black Clover, Blue Gender, Studio Ghibli, Gravity Falls, some horror stuff occasionally. Sometimes MCU/DCU, various original fictions I follow.
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? i don't think so.

dauntless_heart

Is there an interesting story behind your username?

I am a big fan of the Divergent series, and consider myself a Dauntless. :)

Location and language(s): New Mexico, US--English and a small amount of Spanish and German

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): 50's

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:

Don't bring your politics to my journal. That's what your journal's for. And don't argue with my politics in my journal if I post them. I'm not posting mine for you to try to convince me you're right. It's MY JOURNAL. Ugh.
Other than that, just don't be an asshole to me or anyone else. You know what that means. You're a grownup.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
My profile.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? Yes.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I say what I think. I try to be compassionate about it. But you might not like it. Don't ask what I think if you don't want to know.

You mostly write about: My life. Sometimes opinions.

You never or very rarely write about: I was raised not to whine. If I post about something bothering me, I need hugs. I don't do that very often.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? A mix.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?

I use filters that are based on what level of info I want to share about myself. I have learned the hard way you can't trust some people with your most intimate thoughts and feelings. As I know you longer, I change your level of access.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): Right now, I'm trying for daily.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? No. But I'd like to do more of those.

What do you enjoy most about journaling? The connection to others.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? Trying for daily.

You really enjoy reading about: The things I'm interested in! :) Generally, my friends lives are pretty interesting. If not, I know how to scroll.

You have very little interest in reading about: Politics. I watch the news sources I trust and form my own opinions, thanks.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? I mostly think they're fun.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? Do I have to choose one?

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? If they're not commenting, how do I know? I unfriend if I find many days where I just don't have much in common with them, or if they haven't visited DW in many weeks.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? I don't always comment, but I try to if I have some little thing I can add to their day.

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? No note. I'm okay with the same.

AND LASTLY

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?

The fandom you'll most often see me write about is Star Trek. I'm also a writer, so I may also post an opinion of how something I saw was written.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?

I'm trying to do less Facebook and more DW--I'm sad that we live in a world where everything online becomes an attack of others. I have enjoyed online connections with others for decades, and found it very fulfilling and fun. Hope you do too. :)

Current Mood: accomplished

Is there an interesting story behind your username? Not at all. It's a shorter version of my actual name.

Location and language(s): Toronto, Canada. I post only in English, but I do read and understand French.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): 50s

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: I have low tolerance for people who are anti-science/facts, and who are really into stuff like astrology, tarot, etc. It's not necessarily a deal breaker, but it makes things difficult.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? I do! But it's Friends-locked!

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? My profile is not very up-to-date. And likely not very useful, although I do explain my approach to subscribing and granting access and all that. So maybe somewhat useful?

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: I crosspost pretty much every thing to Livejournal (I'm siobhan63 over there), but I don't import comments from LJ to here. I have the greatest job in the world, but no one understands what I do. I am a fairly big sports fan, mostly baseball (Jays), basketball (Raptors), tennis and curling. I watch too much TV and I love reading police procedurals -- especially by British and Irish authors. My life is not exciting, so no drama from me!

You mostly write about: My day to day life, so my work, my home life (married, no kids, some pets). Occasionally a bit about TV shows I watch, but not in detail, save one exception which I will discuss further down. Occasionally some other random topical things.

You never or very rarely write about: Fandom -- not into it. Otherwise, religion, sex and politics. No, seriously!

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? I would say 99% locked.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)? No. I may occasionally put up spoiler warnings if I'm discussing a TV show plot, but beyond that, no.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): Pretty much daily. It's pretty rare that I go more than 2 days without posting.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? I am currently doing a 365-day question meme, so yes, there's that, and I will from time to time do other memes if I find them interesting, but I rarely post photos or videos, and I am not into gifs.

What do you enjoy most about journaling? I journal mostly for myself -- it's a way to remember things that happen. That I also make friends while doing it is an added bonus!

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? Daily. More than once a day, usually.

You really enjoy reading about: Other people's day to day lives, but not in the detailed minute-by-minute, hour-by-hour minutiae sort of way. Also, if we have some shows in common, I'm game to discuss them, but not in a fandom sort of way. Just in a general fan of sort of way.

You have very little interest in reading about: Fandom stuff. I also have zero interest in other people's sex lives. Conspiracy theories. The new-agey stuff I mentioned previously.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? If your journal is mostly that sort of thing, not that interested. I also prefer if photos and such are behind a cut. I check DW out at work, and don't appreciate huge photos appearing on my screen randomly.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? Actual contribution to the discussion, such as it is. I journal largely for myself, so I don't expect people to comment. It's great when they do, but I don't need comments just for the sake of comments.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? Nope, because that's what I do a lot of the time.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? If I have something to contribute to the discussion, I will comment. If others before me have largely said what I was going to say, I don't feel a need to chime in. Also, it takes me awhile to get a sense of new people, so until I feel that I have a sense of who you are, I likely won't say much, unless it's something that I have direct experience with or a specific answer (e.g. if you're looking for a good steak marinade recipe or something like that!).

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? If the journal is largely public, I will often just unsubscribe without providing a head's up. But if, like mine, it's mostly locked, I will let you know before I revoke your access so that you can do the same if you want. Since my journal is mostly locked, I would prefer to be informed if you're going to stop following me so that I can revoke your access.

AND LASTLY

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general? As alluded to above, yes I do, and that would be Outlander. When it's actually airing, I may write up episode posts, but I put them behind a cut, so people who aren't interested can just ignore those posts. I may also post other Outlander-related stuff at other times. Not really fandom stuff, like fanfic and such, mostly just casting news or links to interviews, etc.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? As I stated, I'm not exactly exciting -- rarely travel, don't do much out of the ordinary, but I welcome new friends, so if you want to give me a try, let me know and I'll grant you access! If it doesn't work out, no worries!

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