Finding Friends

Is there an interesting story behind your username? Not at all. It's a shorter version of my actual name.

Location and language(s): Toronto, Canada. I post only in English, but I do read and understand French.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): 50s

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: I have low tolerance for people who are anti-science/facts, and who are really into stuff like astrology, tarot, etc. It's not necessarily a deal breaker, but it makes things difficult.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? I do! But it's Friends-locked!

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? My profile is not very up-to-date. And likely not very useful, although I do explain my approach to subscribing and granting access and all that. So maybe somewhat useful?

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: I crosspost pretty much every thing to Livejournal (I'm siobhan63 over there), but I don't import comments from LJ to here. I have the greatest job in the world, but no one understands what I do. I am a fairly big sports fan, mostly baseball (Jays), basketball (Raptors), tennis and curling. I watch too much TV and I love reading police procedurals -- especially by British and Irish authors. My life is not exciting, so no drama from me!

You mostly write about: My day to day life, so my work, my home life (married, no kids, some pets). Occasionally a bit about TV shows I watch, but not in detail, save one exception which I will discuss further down. Occasionally some other random topical things.

You never or very rarely write about: Fandom -- not into it. Otherwise, religion, sex and politics. No, seriously!

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? I would say 99% locked.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)? No. I may occasionally put up spoiler warnings if I'm discussing a TV show plot, but beyond that, no.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): Pretty much daily. It's pretty rare that I go more than 2 days without posting.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? I am currently doing a 365-day question meme, so yes, there's that, and I will from time to time do other memes if I find them interesting, but I rarely post photos or videos, and I am not into gifs.

What do you enjoy most about journaling? I journal mostly for myself -- it's a way to remember things that happen. That I also make friends while doing it is an added bonus!

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? Daily. More than once a day, usually.

You really enjoy reading about: Other people's day to day lives, but not in the detailed minute-by-minute, hour-by-hour minutiae sort of way. Also, if we have some shows in common, I'm game to discuss them, but not in a fandom sort of way. Just in a general fan of sort of way.

You have very little interest in reading about: Fandom stuff. I also have zero interest in other people's sex lives. Conspiracy theories. The new-agey stuff I mentioned previously.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? If your journal is mostly that sort of thing, not that interested. I also prefer if photos and such are behind a cut. I check DW out at work, and don't appreciate huge photos appearing on my screen randomly.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? Actual contribution to the discussion, such as it is. I journal largely for myself, so I don't expect people to comment. It's great when they do, but I don't need comments just for the sake of comments.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? Nope, because that's what I do a lot of the time.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? If I have something to contribute to the discussion, I will comment. If others before me have largely said what I was going to say, I don't feel a need to chime in. Also, it takes me awhile to get a sense of new people, so until I feel that I have a sense of who you are, I likely won't say much, unless it's something that I have direct experience with or a specific answer (e.g. if you're looking for a good steak marinade recipe or something like that!).

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? If the journal is largely public, I will often just unsubscribe without providing a head's up. But if, like mine, it's mostly locked, I will let you know before I revoke your access so that you can do the same if you want. Since my journal is mostly locked, I would prefer to be informed if you're going to stop following me so that I can revoke your access.

AND LASTLY

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general? As alluded to above, yes I do, and that would be Outlander. When it's actually airing, I may write up episode posts, but I put them behind a cut, so people who aren't interested can just ignore those posts. I may also post other Outlander-related stuff at other times. Not really fandom stuff, like fanfic and such, mostly just casting news or links to interviews, etc.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? As I stated, I'm not exactly exciting -- rarely travel, don't do much out of the ordinary, but I welcome new friends, so if you want to give me a try, let me know and I'll grant you access! If it doesn't work out, no worries!