findingfriends | Entries tagged with age range: 40s

Since my friends list is becoming a wasteland...

Is there an interesting story behind your username? A play on my first name.

Location and language(s): Central Texas, English

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): Turned 40 this January.

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: Politics. While I think I'm more open-minded than before, I far more prefer discussion focused solely on issues and events rather than politicians than groups, and am very sensitive about the rhetoric used.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? Yes, my sticky journal header and my recent political posts so you can get an idea of how I like to discuss politics and current events.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? Up-to-date regarding my interests, and I'll try to work on a new bio, but I'm super ADHD now and need to find the time.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: I'm a high-functioning autistic who has faced severe psychological abuse from my family and am trying to get out of my toxic household.

You mostly write about: What grinds my gears at the moment.

You never or very rarely write about: Things I don't care about.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? Mixed.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)? I don't use filters, but with political posts, I try to include a "trigger warning" in the subject.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): Depends upon how I feel, since I'm at a juncture in my life and need to get my mind in order.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? It depends.

What do you enjoy most about journaling? Being able to say what I want and discussing my views with people who are like-minded.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? I try to do so daily.

You really enjoy reading about: Anything that piques my interests.

You have very little interest in reading about: Things that trigger me.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? I don't mind as long as they don't trigger me.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? A mixture of both.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? No.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? I try to be diplomatic and as civil as possible, even when I disagree with others' opinions.

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? If something they say triggers me, I try to indicate they upset me yet be as diplomatic as possible and just unwatch them while letting them still comment in my journal.

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general? I have a lot of favorites but tend only to write about them in intelligent reviews.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? As long as you aren't mean in how you express your views or to me, we can definitely be friends.

Current Mood: hopeful

gloom_and_rainbows

Is there an interesting story behind your username?
My username came from more of a reflection, gloom and rainbows is a reflection of my almost ever-present optimism amid the darker backdrop of my mental health, traumatic experiences and sense of humour - some of which I write about (with filters.) I may change it in the future, but for now I'm okay with it.

Location and language(s):
England/English
American/English

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
I'm open to anyone over 20+ for friends, I am currently in my 40s.

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Racism, sexism, fatphobia, and right wing political viewpoints.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
I have a bit about me on my profile, but not a specific post about it.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
Pretty up to date.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
My posting can be sporadic, but I do tend to log in to read people's journals and leave comments - even if it's just to let you know I'm stopping by. Sometimes I don't know what to say and socially I feel friendly but quite awkward at times.

You mostly write about:
My day to day experiences, travel, my hobbies, and reflections about the state of my mental health and emotions

You never or very rarely write about:
Fandoms, fiction

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
Friends only

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
I do use cuts for content that I think may make people uncomfortable, plus some filters for sensitivity/privacy of posts

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Sporadically but semi-regularly

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Photos mostly and an occasional meme

What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Getting the thoughts out of my head and into a post, sharing my experiences and connecting with others

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
If I'm honest probably once a week or so, but I'd like to more.

You really enjoy reading about:
What's on people's mind, what are you up to? Let's hear about your special interests and experiences

You have very little interest in reading about:
I'm pretty open actually.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
I'm okay with it, except for if it's literal spam.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
I just enjoy when people feel like they can interact and want to respond, I'm not keeping tracking of quantity but it's nice to know people are reading.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
No

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I try to comment when I have something to say, and occasionally will just to let people know I'm still around and reading - if I can't think of what to say

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
Feel free to unfriend me at any time, if you're just not feeling it.

AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
Nope. Occasionally I may list what I'm reading or watching but that's about it.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
Looking forward to meeting some new friends here, and hope you're having a good day!

Current Mood: awake

jerrbear_81

Is there an interesting story behind your username? Nope. It's just my nickname (sans the 81)

Location and language(s): Midwestern United States. I mainly speak English, but I do know a few Tagalog words and phrases

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): I'm in my forties

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: Bigotry. Especially racism, homophobia, transphobia, and ableism

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? Not a post, but I did fill in the About Me that section on my profile

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? Yes

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: I'm severely disabled to the point that I qualify as a quadriplegic. Can be opinionated. I want to be understood, not pitied

You mostly write about: Whatever is on my mind or documenting my day. I also plan on posting some of my writing

You never or very rarely write about: Most likely I'll never write stories featuring straight folk as main characters. Or, I would very rarely write those stories

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? It's going to be a mix of public and locked. Some of the stories I want to post will be NSFW

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)? Yes. Or, at the least, they would be tagged and/or placed behind a cut

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): Sporadic at best. Sometimes it will be daily, but most likely it will be anywhere between every few days and weekly

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? It probably will at some point. Although, I doubt I'm going linkspam very much

What do you enjoy most about journaling? Not only does it give me something to do, but it gives me a chance to practice some writing. I also like the social aspect of blogging

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? I try to look at least every other day. Failing that, once a week. However, I definitely take a look when I go on the site

You really enjoy reading about: In regards to blogs, anything relatable. If we're talking books, definitely fantasy

You have very little interest in reading about: Conservative politics

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? I have no issues with any of these

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? Quality

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? No. The reasons I may unfriend someone is either because they are being offensive, I find them unpleasant, or we have a falling out. I rarely drop people (though I might drift away if we don't talk enough)

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? I'll usually comment on anything that catches my eye. But, if I don't comment, that doesn't mean I didn't like the post. Sometimes I just can't think of anything to say

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? Usually I'll unfriend without warning. The only time I prefer to be unfriended with a note is if I did something hurtful

AND LASTLY

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general? I don't write about that stuff often, but I might make mention of stuff I like

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? Wolf Parade is an awesome band!

Current Mood: cheerful
Current Location: Somewhere in the Midwest
Current Music: Carry On – Fun

smittenbyu

Is there an interesting story behind your username?
I think it was college, a friend had nicknamed me Smitten (Smitha is hard to nickname - so it evolved from Smithi, to Smitty, to what sounded like Smitten)... and then I looked up if it meant anything and when found it did, well, it had to be done smitten-by-you! ^_^ so that was my creativity back in the 90s/early 2000s! ;)

Location and language(s):I currently live in Arlington VA, but grew up outside Hyderabad (India), Rome (Italy), Singapore, Honolulu (USA), Kuala Lumpur (Malaysia) before landing here 14 years ago. I call Bangalore home as well.

Age range (e.g., 20s, 30s, etc.):40s

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:I haven't unfriended anyone - at least didn't initiate it. I will probably at some point, if I notice unfriend those who have unfriended me.

Deal breakers are the usual stuff that falls under racists, jerks, anti-science, etc. Likely to unfriend me before I even bother. I do think, most of us think we are not racist, but I do tire of folks who don't take time to reflect about the biases they have and then talk about reverse-racism - that likely would be my deal breaker. Because that's not how this works. Library is a wonderful resource. I am more patient, in person, but LJ/DW is where I come to vent and not have to explain/educate.

Do you have an “About Me” post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? yes. It's in the profile - a more detailed one is for those who add me / add me back.

Is your profile up to date or at all useful? it's up to date. Whether it's useful or not - that's determined by the reader, no? So, you let me know! ;)

List a few things you think it’s important new friends know about you right away:

N is my husband, D is my 11.5yo daughter.

A lot of the stuff I share here is probably stuff you wouldn't hear from me right off the bat, if we met in person. I am rather soft-spoken and I am not as open in person / speak my mind if we were to randomly meet somewhere. I do tend to surprise people (in person) - I look younger than I am; I don't fit their image of an Indian / Latina / Black / Muslim / Arab - I have been guessed as all the above different times in my life. I am Indian in origin, but a mix of all the places I have lived in. My education is very American-centric - which bugs me and amuses me.

You mostly write about: my life, my observations, current events that affect me, travel / weekend activities

You never or very rarely write about: my marriage/relationship stuff. I occasionally write/complain about N here. But I try not to too much, as he doesn't get to share his side of the story. And well, guess there are parts that I keep private.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? Mostly friends-only. Every now and then there's a public post. No reason. Just became a habit.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g., fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?I used to do that on LJ. But I don't have the energy. Now, I try to keep the topics in the subject line, so people can skip if not interested.

Your posting frequency (e.g., daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):It's been quite frequent Jan-Mar - almost daily in March. I think in the summer it tapers off a bit and picks up in late fall.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc.? surveys, like this - it's a break from work. :D Photos - I do her photo a day prompts. And every now and then I will remember to share it here.

What do you enjoy most about journaling? It's a place for me to keep track of what I did. Every now and then I will pick a random day from the past to see what I was doing. :) I do love seeing comments to - I learn so much.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g., daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
I try to read a little everyday. But really, whenever I have time.

You really enjoy reading about: People's lives. I love reading people's stories. What is going through their minds. Their struggles, thoughts, life.

You have very little interest in reading about: fandom things. Even if it is about something I like, I probably skim through it or skip it entirely. I like reading about people and their journeys through life.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc.? I like photos. And I will take a look at the others. I don't have thoughts. I know this is a space that serves different purposes for folks and so, take it or leave it, right?

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more—quality or quantity? Quality. It's nice to get a comment at least once a year (?) just to know who is reading. But really, I don't keep track of that.

Do you unfriend people who don’t comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? How would I know if they are reading my journal regularly if they don't comment? So, yeah - I don't unfriend since I wouldn't know.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? I comment when I make a connection, have something to say, or when I feel something. I probably don't comment as much as I want to. But I do read and catch up on posts - then I might not comment as much.

When you friend someone, but things don’t really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? With the handful of times I have unfriended someone - I haven't told them I was. They probably hadn't noticed and if they asked, I would share - just likely we didn't connect. And that's fine.

AND LASTLY

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren’t things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about—not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?I do write about books I read and shows/movies that I watch. I don't want to list that here.

Any final thoughts you’d like to share with new friends?

rhythmicflow

Is there an interesting story behind your username? I love words, I love the cadence and flow of poetry so rhythmicflow just seemed to fit
Location and language(s): I'm in England, and I speak English. I did German in high school but doubt I remember anything further than Ich heiße London Lee
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): early 40s
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: hate speech, censorship, telling me my life is wrong/how to live my life
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? see here
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? It's up-to-date, but I don't know how 'useful' it is
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: I am a genderfluid (she/they), poly (in two long-term committed relationships), pansexual, pagan, long-haired, Leo
You mostly write about/You never or very rarely write about: I don't know, but I'm excited to find out
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? I suspect it's going to be a mixture of both
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)? nope, and I don't know what that means
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): I'm planning on posting every few days, maybe 3-4 times a week
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? probably, yes!
What do you enjoy most about journaling? How it makes me thing about how I present myself using only words, how I'm forced to communicate more consisely and how it can connect people
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? Same as posting, every few days
You really enjoy reading about: people, their lives, their loves and their passions. Listening to someone speak about something they're passionate about, even if I know nothing about the subject, is a wonderful experience
You have very little interest in reading about: teen angst/drama, fanfiction, hate speech
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? I'm not a fan of linkspams, I'd rather know what you think of a topic. If a person is posting something that important/means something to them, and chooses visual media, then I want to see it.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? yes. Stroke my ego!
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? I don't think so. I'd certainly prefer people TO comment, interaction is part of the point of this community, but I also understand there are MANY reasons people don't/can't
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? If I have something to say, I'll say it.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? I think I would prefer the heads up, both giving and receiving.

AND LASTLY

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general? I'm not in fandom, per se. I love to read, especially horror, mystery, paranormal and urban fantasy - and list Cassandra Clare, Jim Butcher, JK Rowling, Patricia Briggs and Charlaine Harris among my favourite writers. TV/Movie wise I love Harry Potter, Sherlock, Good Omens, True Blood, Twilight, Shadowhunters, most Tim Burton.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? Not that I can think of. If there's anything you want to know, just ask and I'll probably tell you!

tinny

Is there an interesting story behind your username?
Nope. It's just my name.

Location and language(s):
Germany, but I post exclusively in English.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
40s.

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Uncut spoilers. (Although I am rarely in the same fandoms as my flisties, so that is probably not very often relevant.)

Ranting. If all you do is rant about stuff, I will most likely be repulsed by the negativity. (I realize that politics these days are impossible not to rant about, just... please let it not be all that you do.)

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Hmm... not really. But most of my journal is public, so you can get a sense of me that way, I hope.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
I think so? It's short but I think it represents me.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I will not friend anyone who posts more than once a day. I simply don't have time to read it all and I would feel bad not reading it. (But I have some friends with whom I have agreed to filter their posts only to specific tags, to reduce the frequency. So they know I will only see those.)

I think I am very friendly and try to comment on all my friends' posts. I like to give advice (when the post sounds like you are receptive to it).

I have little time, so in-depth discussions in real time are not going to happen. I'm old, and my reaction to rants and heated discussions is to stay away.

I will always gush excitedly and in detail about your creative content: icons, vids, fic, crafts, whatever. People's creations are awesome and I love them.

You mostly write about:
Icons! I make about 1000 icons per year. And not the crop-and-be-done-with-it kind, either. The complex kind. (I post new ones about once a week.)
Fandoms I am currently watching, I make rec posts and pic spams. (Irregularly.)
Books I am currently reading, I write detailed reviews about them. (About one a month.)
RL. (About once a month.)

You never or very rarely write about:
Anything else. :)

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
All the personal posts are locked. Everything else is public.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
No. But I tag everything, so you can filter/subscribe selectively.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Icons: a lot, like once a week.
Books: once a month.
Memes: maybe once a month? Plus one weekly meme I try to do but often skip.
RL: once a month.

All in all, it comes out to three to five posts a week.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Icons!
Sometimes picspams.
The RL posts contain photos.
I do one weekly meme that a lot of my flisties do as well.

What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Icons. :D

I don't know, I've been doing it for so long that it's become routine and I don't want to miss it anymore? Probably ... connecting with people all over the world, and sharing fannish excitement and creations.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
Once a week, on Sunday.

You really enjoy reading about:
Books, icons, fic recs, my friends' lives. I really enjoy a mix of RL and fannish posts. Getting to know the whole person is what makes the format on dw so attractive compared to other more superficial formats like tumblr or twitter.

You have very little interest in reading about:
Sports. Negativity. Everything else is fair game, I guess?

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
They're fine with me.

I will skip those posts if they're too infantile, but I actually like a good meme once in a while.

About linkspams in particular: I like people who go to the trouble of collecting links to particular topics, and actively seek them out. (Because I have too little time to go looking, myself.)

Full disclosure: I will always skip music videos.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Duh? I am happy to get a single comment. :) And I am happy to get minimalist comments like hearts or hugs, too. I will engage everyone with longer comments, too. I love in-depth discussions in theory, but I usually don't have time to really let them develop.

I tend to leave detailed comments, myself.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
Few comments are fine. No comments at all... I'll assume they're not reading my posts.
I might unfriend people who *never* comment, but only if I feel the same way about commenting on their posts. (Unless you tell me you just like to lurk, then that's okay).

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I try to comment on all of my friends' posts, especially on the RL posts.
But I don't comment on fandom posts for fandoms I don't know.

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
I haven't unfriended anyone in years. I used to do flist-cleanup rounds once a year, and if it becomes necessary again, I think I will keep it that way. I make a public post telling my flist that I unfriended, and whoever wants to stay can stay. (It's only happened to me once that someone asked to keep access.)

Unfriending me: just do it.

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Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?

A lot of my content is my "fandom du jour". Currently, that means cdrama (=Chinese tv shows), e.g. Guardian. But it changes as the mood strikes.

The only constant in my fannish life has been Supernatural, and I sometimes still post fic recs and icons for that.

The most consistent fannish thing I do is gay movie recs and m/m and BL show recs. So if you're interested in that, there will most likely be at least some content about that.

Otherwise, my book recs are a regular occurrence, and those will almost all be scifi/fantasy books.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?

I love dw and its format, and I will stick around for as long as possible. I hope a lot of people think the same way, so we can keep it going.

Just for you: the last five icons I made (and haven't posted anywhere else yet) :

(HIStory 3 | ST:Enterprise | Guardian)

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