Finding Friends

Is there an interesting story behind your username?
Nope. It's just my name.

Location and language(s):
Germany, but I post exclusively in English.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
40s.

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Uncut spoilers. (Although I am rarely in the same fandoms as my flisties, so that is probably not very often relevant.)

Ranting. If all you do is rant about stuff, I will most likely be repulsed by the negativity. (I realize that politics these days are impossible not to rant about, just... please let it not be all that you do.)

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Hmm... not really. But most of my journal is public, so you can get a sense of me that way, I hope.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
I think so? It's short but I think it represents me.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I will not friend anyone who posts more than once a day. I simply don't have time to read it all and I would feel bad not reading it. (But I have some friends with whom I have agreed to filter their posts only to specific tags, to reduce the frequency. So they know I will only see those.)

I think I am very friendly and try to comment on all my friends' posts. I like to give advice (when the post sounds like you are receptive to it).

I have little time, so in-depth discussions in real time are not going to happen. I'm old, and my reaction to rants and heated discussions is to stay away.

I will always gush excitedly and in detail about your creative content: icons, vids, fic, crafts, whatever. People's creations are awesome and I love them.

You mostly write about:
Icons! I make about 1000 icons per year. And not the crop-and-be-done-with-it kind, either. The complex kind. (I post new ones about once a week.)
Fandoms I am currently watching, I make rec posts and pic spams. (Irregularly.)
Books I am currently reading, I write detailed reviews about them. (About one a month.)
RL. (About once a month.)

You never or very rarely write about:
Anything else. :)

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
All the personal posts are locked. Everything else is public.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
No. But I tag everything, so you can filter/subscribe selectively.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Icons: a lot, like once a week.
Books: once a month.
Memes: maybe once a month? Plus one weekly meme I try to do but often skip.
RL: once a month.

All in all, it comes out to three to five posts a week.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Icons!
Sometimes picspams.
The RL posts contain photos.
I do one weekly meme that a lot of my flisties do as well.

What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Icons. :D

I don't know, I've been doing it for so long that it's become routine and I don't want to miss it anymore? Probably ... connecting with people all over the world, and sharing fannish excitement and creations.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
Once a week, on Sunday.

You really enjoy reading about:
Books, icons, fic recs, my friends' lives. I really enjoy a mix of RL and fannish posts. Getting to know the whole person is what makes the format on dw so attractive compared to other more superficial formats like tumblr or twitter.

You have very little interest in reading about:
Sports. Negativity. Everything else is fair game, I guess?

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
They're fine with me.

I will skip those posts if they're too infantile, but I actually like a good meme once in a while.

About linkspams in particular: I like people who go to the trouble of collecting links to particular topics, and actively seek them out. (Because I have too little time to go looking, myself.)

Full disclosure: I will always skip music videos.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Duh? I am happy to get a single comment. :) And I am happy to get minimalist comments like hearts or hugs, too. I will engage everyone with longer comments, too. I love in-depth discussions in theory, but I usually don't have time to really let them develop.

I tend to leave detailed comments, myself.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
Few comments are fine. No comments at all... I'll assume they're not reading my posts.
I might unfriend people who *never* comment, but only if I feel the same way about commenting on their posts. (Unless you tell me you just like to lurk, then that's okay).

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I try to comment on all of my friends' posts, especially on the RL posts.
But I don't comment on fandom posts for fandoms I don't know.

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
I haven't unfriended anyone in years. I used to do flist-cleanup rounds once a year, and if it becomes necessary again, I think I will keep it that way. I make a public post telling my flist that I unfriended, and whoever wants to stay can stay. (It's only happened to me once that someone asked to keep access.)

Unfriending me: just do it.

AND LASTLY

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?

A lot of my content is my "fandom du jour". Currently, that means cdrama (=Chinese tv shows), e.g. Guardian. But it changes as the mood strikes.

The only constant in my fannish life has been Supernatural, and I sometimes still post fic recs and icons for that.

The most consistent fannish thing I do is gay movie recs and m/m and BL show recs. So if you're interested in that, there will most likely be at least some content about that.

Otherwise, my book recs are a regular occurrence, and those will almost all be scifi/fantasy books.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?

I love dw and its format, and I will stick around for as long as possible. I hope a lot of people think the same way, so we can keep it going.

Just for you: the last five icons I made (and haven't posted anywhere else yet) :



(HIStory 3 | ST:Enterprise | Guardian)