findingfriends | Entries tagged with age range: 30s

Is there an interesting story behind your username? Not really. I dig the song, and I was in a future punk phase lol.

Location and language(s): Canada, English. Trying to learn Spanish.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): Late 30s.

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: I will let you know when/if this becomes relevant. Outside of the general rule of trying your dang best to not be an asshole, I honestly try and give people a chance.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? Yes, its the same post as my Friends Only post.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? Absolutely useless, has nothing important in it at all except some interests. Check the friends only post, lol.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: Genderfluid, living with mental illness & disabilities. I have really amazing people that I am working with and spent a lot of years working on it. Everything else will probably come in time?

You mostly write about: Day to day life, reflections, thoughts, plans, hopes, dreams. Things I'm working on, projects, interests.

You never or very rarely write about: Not much of a fandom person so probably not any fanfiction, fanart, or anything like that.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? Almost exclusively locked.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)? I don't.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): It really fluctuates!

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? Not really. I might end up posting links to my vlogs and reaction channel when/if I ever get that up and running again, people are more than welcome to ignore it. May post a photo here and there but I haven't done a meme in a hot minute. Sometimes they're fun?

What do you enjoy most about journaling? Its a great way to document what is going on, release stress and let things out, and in a community journaling aspect its also a great way to connect with people on a deeper manner than what a lot of modern social media offers.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? Every few days I try to check in.

You really enjoy reading about: What everyone is up to! Honestly, I just like getting to know what is going on in peoples lives, what they are doing, etc.

You have very little interest in reading about: shrugs. If something doesn't tickle me, I just move past it.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? Its fine for the most part. If its NOTHING but those things then I might have less interest as I want to find more connection and read about what's happening in peoples lives and the things they're up to. A little though, no problem. Sometimes memes and links and stuff help you get to know people more!

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? Quality. Comment what you feel and however it rocks for you.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? No.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? If I have something to say, I say it.

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? Depends. If we don't click at all and hardly know one another then I will probably just unfriend. If we've gotten to know one another somewhat well and things are not clicking all of a sudden, then I might try and talk to them first.

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Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general? At the moment, not really. I might talk about some music I like or a show/movie I watched that I enjoyed if I feel like I have something to talk about regarding them but I can't think about anything in particular right now.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? Hello, and I hope we can become friends!!

mobiusstripper

Is there an interesting story behind your username? Not really! I just needed a punny name, and this was the first one that came to mind. I think it fits me well because I'm a math nerd, I love things that are complex and weird and layered and contradictory, and I have an irreverent sense of humor.

Location and language(s): I am currently located in Los Angeles, and my first language is English. I am also semi-fluent in German and know a little bit of Spanish, Mandarin, and Yiddish.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): 30s

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: Any kind of cruelty, mean-spiritedness, and/or bullying. Make no mistake, I'm not one to worry about making sure everyone feels nice and comfy all the time. There are times when discomfort and confrontation are good and necessary. My problem comes in when I get the sense that someone is getting off on it. Getting their jollies from shoving someone else's face in the dirt. Nothing makes me madder than a small, petty motherfucker on a power trip.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? My most detailed existing "About Me" is from my DeviantArt, where I describe myself as a "Digital & occasionally traditional illustrator specializing in horror of the psychological, body, scifi, feminist, psychedelic, surreal, and existential varieties. Lover of filth and all things morbid." That should be enough to decide if you're intrigued or if we're not gonna click. If you're still reading, I will expand on that by saying I am also a writer (fanfic, poetry, and plays). I'm specifically interested in connecting with other fan artists and writers on this site, particularly older folks (30+) in smaller and more obscure fandoms. I have a background in academic philosophy and do a lot of philosophy-posting as well as fandom meta that draws on philosophy. I'm a SFF nerd, with a strong bias toward the scifi end of the spectrum. My favorite scifi subgenres are anything psychological that deals with identity (I'm very partial to all manner of robots, androids, AI, replicants, clones, computer-based minds, and the like) and spacetime fuckery. Most of my more fantasy-geared interests are related to D&D. I am ALWAYS down to play D&D, if any of you run oneshots or campaigns over Discord! I also love Brazilian jiu-jitsu and train five or six times a week, so you will probably hear me talk about that a lot! I don't really pay attention to it at the professional level, though, so you won't hear me talk much about that - just my own training.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? Yup

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: I am neurodivergent (shocker, on this site!?), specifically ADHD inattentive type with some pretty serious executive dysfunction issues that I work really hard on. Sometimes that can make me come off flaky or unreliable, but I am absolutely not. I can be flighty as an acquaintance, but once we are officially FRIENDS, I am absolutely ride-or-die. I struggle with mood stability and go through up periods and down periods. When I'm depressed, I can be quite whiny and wallowing, but I have developed a lot of skills for avoiding and getting out of those pits, and I'm continuing to work on it. I'm generally in a good place these days, but occasionally things can throw me off balance for a minute. I definitely don't make my negativity anyone else's problem during these times, but sometimes I will vent on my blog about feeling crappy and be kind of useless for a few days until I straighten myself out.

You mostly write about: Existential stuff. Sad stuff. Difficult stuff. Bittersweet stuff. How to go on existing in a world that's full of horrors. People dealing with (or not dealing with) the darkness inside themselves. People who become better. People who become worse. People who find connection with each other. People who try and fail. People who fall into dark pits and climb back out of them, and people who fall in and never get out. Understanding them. Understanding the world we live in. Bearing witness. Appreciating beauty. Coming to terms. Finding peace. Making a path for oneself.

You never or very rarely write about: Domestic bliss, uncomplicated romance

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? A mix. I usually lock stuff that is more personal just because I figure people who aren't following already won't be particularly interested in the picayune of my inner life.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)? No

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): Not sure. If I make some real friendships on here, I will probably be around more regularly than if I'm just occasionally going back and forth with friendly acquaintances. Probably 1-2 times a week currently, but that could change up in the future.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? No. Maybe the occasional photo, but it's mostly text so far.

What do you enjoy most about journaling? The possibility that there might be people who are interested in my life and things I have to say.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? Every day or two

You really enjoy reading about: Certain types of fandom meta (I'm a sucker for a deep analysis, especially character analysis, ESPECIALLY underappreciated character analysis), philosophy, ideas in general, humor, psychology, theory, just overall humanities nerd shit as well as some STEM nerd shit.

You have very little interest in reading about: Some aspects of politics. I am past a point of caring about, "OMG did you hear what Trump said?!" I am interested in following bigger-picture stuff, but the petty day-to-day drama wears me the fuck out, and I'm over it.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? I haven't been around here long enough to really appreciate what any of that means. I'll have to figure it out as I go. I don't know what "linkspam" is but I don't like the word "spam" being in there. And if you post a video, I probably won't watch it unless you really hook me with your lead-in (unless I've gotten to know you well enough to know you always post gold).

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? Quality

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? No

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? If I have something to say, I say it.

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? It depends. If things just never took off with us and we've had zero interactions for months, I'll probably do a quiet unfriend.

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Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general? The things listed under my interests are the things you can probably expect me to talk about at some point or other. List is subject to change, but currently includes: Alien, Blade Runner, Claire North, C.J. Cherryh, David Cronenberg, Dark, Dimension 20, The Expanse, Gillian Flynn, Junji Ito, Naoki Urasawa's Monster, Ted Chiang, and The OA. I will probably talk about lots of books, movies, and shows as I read/watch them.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? My favorite quote from my favorite book, The Ethics of Ambiguity by Simone de Beauvoir:

"Morality resides in the painfulness of an indefinite questioning...what distinguishes the tyrant from the man of good will is that the first rests in the certainty of his aims, whereas the second keeps asking himself, 'Am I really working for the liberation of all men? Isn't this end contested by the sacrifices through which I aim at it?'"

Current Mood: friendly

bewilderedbird

Is there an interesting story behind your username?
BewilderedBird just stems from the fact that I like birds and I often feel very confused about the state of the world. Marin is the first "real" and actually developed character I ever came up with when I was ten and her name became my nick name.

Location and language(s):
Germany | German and English, I hope to learn more one day

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
30s (35)

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Being extremely political (left or right or whatever), discriminatory in any way. Generally being an asshole. We can talk about anything, just be civil about it.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Yes, just made one!

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
Don't know if it's useful but it should be up-to-date.

List a few things you think are important new friends know about you right away:
See my intro post:
- Mostly asexual, so not interested in explicit NSFW stuff, but anything romantic, nudity included, is fine
- Non-political as I see Dreamwidth as a refuge from the horrors of the world.
- I dealt with severe depression and anxiety during my teenage and early adult years and while it got a lot better it still affects me in certain situations and so might be a topic I write about

You mostly write about:
I write more about my personal view on things, art, life as it happens and about memories than I do about fandoms or entertainment in general.

You never or very rarely write about:
Politics, fandoms.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
For now everything is public but I might lock posts in the future if I feel they contain information I don't want out in the open.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
If I delve deep into mental health or any other topics that I believe people might want to avoid, I will use cuts. Other than that, not really.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Every few days if I'm in a very good mood, otherwise weekly.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
No.

What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Taking the time to formulate your thoughts. Social media trained us to be fast, to never have time for anything, to have a short attention span. Journaling is the exact opposite and I feel like it's meditation for the brain sometimes. You simply get to know yourself better.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
Daily.

You really enjoy reading about:
Just the lives of different people, what others enjoy, what they avoid, what their hobbies are, their dreams and wishes, their fears, their achievements and their thoughts about life. And if there's art or general creativity involved in any capacity, I enjoy that even more.

You have very little interest in reading about:
Politics, fandoms.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Not my cup of tea if that's all there is. I love memes, photos, etc, but I don't want to be bombarded.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Quality. But if you just have a one-word-comment because you can't think of anything, that's completely fine.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
No, never. Please don't feel pressured into commenting. If you just enjoy reading, that makes me so happy.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I'm very introverted and have a hard time being social, although it got a lot better over the past years. But more often than not, I don't really know what to add to a topic. I read every entry though!

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
If we had a good relationship beforehand, I will write a note but if we never really interacted I will just unfriend. You can handle that in any way you prefer. No judgment.

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
I only write about media if it impacts me and even then maybe once or twice and that's it. My hyper hyper fandom phase is behind me.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
If you are very shy or anxious but still want to add me, don't feel the need to comment here. Just go ahead and I'll take a look at your profile and posts to see if I'll add you back :)

Current Mood: calm

niko_reubens

Is there an interesting story behind your username?

I'm head over heels for Paul Reubens. So naturally... I had to take his last name :) I used to be niko_altman, but just renamed my blog today.

Location and language(s):

Boring ass Ohio, I speak English and some Russian.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):

I myself am in my mid-30s. I seem a lot younger because of my personality and the fact I look young.

As for adding me, I'd prefer no one under 18! I'd prefer people 30+, but if you're 25+ that's okay.

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:

I do not want Trump supporters/MAGA people, bigots (especially transphobes), anti-Zionists, antisemites, or terrorist sympathizers friending me.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?

Yes. I recommend reading my stickied about me post, and also reading my profile.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?

Yes, I just recently revamped it, and it gives a better feel of who I am and what you'll see on my journal.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:

1. I'm Jewish.
2. I'm trans.
3. I'm autistic and post a lot of special interest things.

You mostly write about:

My special interests, video games, repairing retro game systems, my fanfiction, my beloved Paul Reubens, and a lot of other stuff.

You never or very rarely write about:

Hm... idk.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?

A mix. Other things are filtered to a small few on my list, as it's very personal in nature and these few understand me.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?

Yes.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):

Whenever. Sometimes daily, sometimes multiple times a day, sometimes every few days... it depends.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?

Photos are frequent. Memes sometime.

What do you enjoy most about journaling?

Communicating with my friends here. Getting things out of my mush-brain.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?

Daily. Don't always have the spoons to comment though.

You really enjoy reading about:

Everything, tbh,

You have very little interest in reading about:

IDK. I haven't figured it out yet. 🤣

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?

Fun!

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?

Quality.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?

No, because I understand they may not have the spoons to comment, just like me.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?

? I comment when I have the spoons, or if something is interesting, or if I just feel like it.

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?

Without warning, unless we've been friends a while, then I'll send a message. I don't like to be cut from people's friends out of the blue, so I try to treat others how I'd want to be treated.

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Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?

I regularly post about Pee-wee's Playhouse, and have been doing a watch along/review posting with the episodes. So there's that. I don't think that there's anything that I don't journal about in a way that isn't "fandom sort of way".

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?

Just to reiterate, it's highly important to read my profile and my sticky about post before friending me. Both of those things are full of information that will help you decide whether or not you want to follow and friend me.

Current Mood: blah

erinptah

Is there an interesting story behind your username?

I was 10 or 11, I was coming up with Sailor Moon OCs, I flipped to the “list of mythology topics” page in what must’ve been the family World Book Encyclopedia, and picked half a dozen names basically at random. One of them ended up being Sailor Ptah.

…you want to see some art, right? Of course you do.

( Art + the rest of the questions behind the fake cut )

suncani

Is there an interesting story behind your username?
Suncani means sunny or shiny in serbian. I wanted something fairly neutral when I started participating online and it's stuck
Location and language(s):
UK, UK english, tiny bits of spanish and french. I used to speak more but it's whithered with disuse
Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
early 30's
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Bullying, anti's anything that's imposing your opinion on others. We can disagree but everyone likes what they like, you don't need to tell them they're wrong or a bad person for it.
Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Erm sort of? While I don't have too many posts I think they're a good reflection of the things I like and am most likely to talk about.
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
Well the interests are but I think that's all that's on there, as I wasn't entirely sure what to put.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:

I am incredibly inconsistent and my brain generally hates me. This means I can take forever to reply back to comments and triple think what I write. So if you get a comment that seems a bit odd, it's probably been edited to death. If I take a while to respond I'm not annoyed or uninterested I'm probably been reclusive. You mostly write about:
Things that I've found that I think are interesting, what I'm reading, current projects, a little bit of politics
You never or very rarely write about:
At the moment I'm still figuring out what I want to use my journal for so am loathe to say I'd never write about something, but that might change
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
Mostly public
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
I don't think so?
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Aiming for at least every few days but this has been fairly sporadic so far
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
I like a good linkspam but try to limit to 2-3 and explain why I'm highlighting them
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Chance to write regularly and attempt to become better at getting my thoughts down on paper in a coherent manner
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
Daily
You really enjoy reading about:
Whatever other people are interested in. If someone has a passion for something it comes across in their writing and makes it interesting
You have very little interest in reading about:
Unrelenting negativity. Yes, the world is not as good as it can be, but I need some hope otherwise I end up sliding too.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Some is good, if that's all their is, I may struggle to comment but will probably still read
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Happy with either, whatever people choose to do is great by me
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
Nope, I only really clean out lists once in a blue moon and then it would be complete inactivity for months/years
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
If I have something to say, I'll comment but will generally be quite restrained in commenting I can be shy sometimes.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
Tend to just unfriend and would prefer the same. Sometimes things just don't click for any real reasons
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Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?

What I write about tends to be what I'm interested in at the time, I can be a bit of a butterfly skipping from one thing to the next Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? If there's anything you're curious about come and say hi!

killertofuuu

Is there an interesting story behind your username? Nope! It's just part of my personality, though my job is to be a funny futz, not a mean one. I poke fun at my fandoms and favorite things playfully. I try not to complain much anymore, though. Nothing sucks more than making serious business out of fandom. And besides, online, I go by Risa.
Location and language(s): United States, US English and some Spanish
Age range: I'm 30, but I'll be friends with anyone who's mature and fun.
Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: It almost goes without saying in fandom spaces like these that most flavors of bigotry are no good, but lets go deeper. I don't tolerate harassment and bullying of any sort, for any reason, from anyone, period, especially if it involves ship bashing, or kink shaming. Anti's who make "call out" posts? I'm looking at you. Also, I don't want to hear about why "men suck" or "cis people suck" or whatever. I'm done listening to that shit. It needs to stop.
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? LOL, not really. I have a massive list of interests, though, and lots of icons. Pretty much anything you see is fair game to talk about.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: I am a workaholic and I lose track of time. I have been known to disappear for months at a time. This is only because I fall out of the habit of updating my journal. Now that I'm getting back in the habit of updating my journal, you'll be seeing more of me around. I write lots of fic and meme a lot, too.
You mostly write about: Fannish things and hobbies. I try not to talk about work so much anymore, because it's bad enough I have to live it. I don't really want to relive it online, you know? Besides, that's what facebook's for.
You never or very rarely write about: I used to use my journal to talk about my mood and my IRL relationships/issues/worries/etc., but I don't want to use this platform for that anymore. I'm trying to shift more into writing and creativity for the fun of it. I've found more useful (for me) ways to manage my mental health, but you'd better believe I understand the value of having people online to talk about all that stuff. Your thoughts and concerns are always safe with me. Chef don't judge.
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? Mostly public. I won't say I never do locked posts, but rarely.
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)? No. I'm pretty easy-going about whatever folks post about. The only things I can't stand are bullying and harassment. Not talk of bullying and harassment, but actual bullying and harassment. That'll piss me off right quick.
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): I'm gonna say every few days at this point, but I'm looking at updating maybe 2-3 times daily as my goal.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? I embed youtube videos from time to time. I love memes and post a lot of them, especially ones pertaining to writing and shipping! Not many gifs, but if I use them I'll put them under a cut, most likely.
What do you enjoy most about journaling? Being in the writing habit and keeping myself accountable for engaging in fun hobbies so I'm not just burning myself out with work and responsibilities all the time.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? Daily, which sadly isn't hard. Not everyone posts on DW frequently. Heck, it's a wagon I've fallen off of at times.
You really enjoy reading about: Other people's hobbies. What they're cooking. What games they're playing. What they're writing. What animals they encounter. I like to know what people are up to. It helps me remind myself to have more fun.
You have very little interest in reading about: Pettiness, complaints, criticism, people talking shit about each other, people bashing media they hate, etc. Meh. Or, to put it more briefly, I'm sick of reading about, or listening to what people hate, and will very likely ignore it. I want friends who are less about that hate and more about live and let live.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? Hey, include anything you want in your journals. It's your world! You ought to post whatever you want. Don't let my preferences stop you.
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? I appreciate both, because I'm entitled to neither. I guess if I had a preference, I'd go for quantity. Part of why I'm here is because I want to talk to people. The more comments, the better. Don't be shy!
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? No.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? If anything stands out about the post and I want to chime in, I will. It's usually a joke, some insight, or something fairly neutral, though. I'll offer Internet hugs for people who need them, too.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? I would just unfriend silently, and when I do it's usually nothing personal. You can just unfriend me, too, if you need to. No explanation needed. It's all good.
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Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general? I'd say the fandom I talk most about is South Park, but I like all sorts of cartoons, video games, etc. Heck, just look at my interests list. We'll talk any fandoms you want, including ones I'm not part of. I have plenty of generic enough posts where you can chime in with something off topic. Doesn't bother me.
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? I'm hopelessly obsessed with cooking videos on YouTube right now, and I also love Gordon Ramsay. If you have recipes that you love, send them my way anytime! I do a bit of cooking myself.

Current Mood: good

armaina

Is there an interesting story behind your username? It's a misspelling/mispronunciation of the name Aramina, from the first short story of the The Girl Who Heard Dragons by Anne McCaffrey.

Location and language(s): Arizona, US. English

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.): 30's

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending: Lack of empathy, cruelty. Any situation where I feel like I cannot talk or express on my own journal without being lashed out at. Being cruel or contemptful of others on an excessive basis, making a platform of pointing out flaws in others and nothing else. Any situation where my time or emotional energy is demanded without my consent.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.? Eh, not really? Though browsing the thoughts tag will probably clue you in on how I talk about things.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful? Yep, though http://me.armaina.com/ is the best profile.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away: I'm tactfully honest, I'm an extrovert, and I'm highly empathetic. I see the world and people as nuanced and exceedingly complicated and really detest black and white thinking. (I know people do it as a defense mechanism but I just cannot be around it for very long). Because of that, I'm extremely passionate about people, about compassion, about the way we treat one another. Aside from all that, I'm an avid worldbuilder, creating societies, peoples, histories, interactions, is a huge part of my life. I likewise love seeing what other people create, it's the thing that keeps things going.

You mostly write about: A lot about society, interaction, people. A lot of worldbuilding when I'm not bummed about it. Art, I illustrate and pixel art and I'm trying to make myself have more fun with it. And then the occasional games or cartoon Thing.

You never or very rarely write about: Anything particularly dark or distressing is never available to the public. There's a lot in the way of the current state of the world that I probably won't talk much about because I gotta be honest, I'm just too dang exhausted with all that.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked? It's mostly public, with some locked entries

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)? I have a mature filter post, a headspace filter, and a religious filter I've used about once.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.): I'd say about weekly with some bursts of several times within the week.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? No memes or link spam, just artwork I made myself and screen caps from video games.

What do you enjoy most about journaling? Getting out my thoughts, mostly. Being able to think and process whats on my mind has helped me in my comprehension of language so much. I don't think I'd be nearly as articulate as I am without it, and I still have a lot to figure out. Plus I use this place a lot to hash out ideas for stories, settings and characters in a nice categorized way I can't do much anywhere else. I just like using any place I have for creative works and stories and things.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)? Daily, often checking multiple times in a day.

You really enjoy reading about: Creative stuff! Give me the things you make, the things you do, the things you're enthused about. Looove seeing other world-builders and story creators. I also enjoy philosophical talk and things like thoughtful observations. Discussing the how and why we do the things we do is hugely important to me.

You have very little interest in reading about: Endlessly posting about why other people are bad or why some demographic is bad. Venting is fine, dislike is fine, my issue lies in the excess.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc? I can take it in small doses but if it becomes excessive I just can't do it.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity? I don't care?? comment or don't comment, comment as much or as little. Never ever force yourself to exert beyond what's appropriate.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly? I'll occasionally do friend clean up, but that often comes from months or years of inactivity.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals? If I have something appropriate to say I comment. If I don't, I don't. And sometimes I open up a window, write half a comment, then forget to finish.

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances? It will sometimes take me months or even years to actually remove people, and if I do it's because I've heard/read nothing. However, in the case where I feel something has been violated, I usually will contact the person if I feel familiar enough with them to talk it out. I won't notify someone if I feel they will just be malicious. People are not obligated to talk to me about anything if they remove me. While it would be appreciated, it would be wrong, controlling even, to expect people to do this.

AND LASTLY

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general? Media topics that are most likely to come up will be Warframe, SecondLife, GuildWars 2, Destiny 2, Pokemon, Doom, Boatloads of cartoons, mostly western, and if I feel up to it I even do little thought pieces or reviews. I also have a strong preference for anything SciFi leaning, especially super future settings (like Mass Effect and Warframe).

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? I tend to like people more often than dislike, it's really difficult for me to have a strong negative perception of others. Oh and while I sometimes write about things I'm a fan of, I do not consider myself a 'fannish' blog and I don't really partake in 'fandom' on the whole.

Current Music: Hexenkraft - Technomagick Sacrament

kalium

Is there an interesting story behind your username?
It's an alternative name for the element potassium. Chemistry is cool.

Location and language(s):
North-east England, English only.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
30s. Nobody ever believes me...

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
I feel like I should start with the usual - -isms of different stripes will make me keep away - but to be honest I've never felt like these people are that much of a problem here. So I'll just come out and say it - aggressive, weaponised social justice/your fave is problematic/cancel culture/any sort of shaming/creator hate in all its forms, also current events, politics, and that "everything is a horrific dystopia and there is no hope" feel, because I like having a will to live. Just generally being a jerk under the guise of progressivism. Please, no.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Not really, but my profile should do the trick. I also have:

Story/'verse listings - because I am that person who works for too long on too many things. Includes monster-laden fantasy, cracky metafiction, a 90s/early 2000s magical critter throwback world, one lonely fanfic that isn't very fannish, and some weird thing involving Storybook Weaver.

Cautions! - sensitive stuff I may post about, that might be dealbreaking or upsetting to others.

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
Sure. It's a few months old but I try to keep it reflective of who I am.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I'm not in fandom, I just lurk around the edges because the internet seems to think fan activities are the sum total of all creativity so it's impossible to keep away from it. I'd love to meet more people who enjoy making their own creations! I enjoy worldbuilding, even if it's a dirty word to some. I'm also from that era of the internet where nobody knew you were a dog, which is why I don't have my identities listed. I miss it. A lot. I like personal websites, pre-Facebook media, the right of everyone no matter who they are to enjoy unicorns, and what I once called the rabbit hole internet. I can be shy and skittish with the anger that's so rampant around the modern internet, so I'm trying to deal with that. Basically, I wish it was the 90s.

You mostly write about:
The stuff I make, although I can be a bit shy after so long thinking nobody cares to hear about it, but I like to post the things I made and talk about the creative process, characters, plotting, worldbuilding, all that goodness. I miss tossing ideas back and forth with other creators and coming up with random details. Also take into account the stuff on my caution list - I do vent about bad SJ a lot, which probably sounds weird for someone who hates politics, but I consider it trying to untangle all the messed up things it did to my head. Same with working through mental health issues without a medical framework.

You never or very rarely write about:
Everyday life - jobs, family etc, except on rare occasions. I have no kids and don't want any, so none of that either. Current events or politics beyond the ranting-about-SJ stuff I warned about.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
A mixture - creative stuff is usually public, anything personally identifying or controversial is locked because I fear the almighty dogpile and cancel.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
Not so much. Probably should?

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
Usually once every few days, but it depends on what I have to say and how often.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
No. I never used Tumblr very much, certainly not as a social platform, so I didn't pick up on its culture.

What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Being able to ramble in a private environment. I never liked places like Tumblr or Twitter because it felt like you were having a conversation with the entire world. I don't want that, I want to feel like I'm having a conversation with friends.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
At least once every day.

You really enjoy reading about:
The same stuff I like to post about. I love original worlds, deep worldbuilding, created species, stories and characters, art, crafts, and the general love of making things.

You have very little interest in reading about:
The stuff on my dealbreaker list. I'm also really not into sports, your SO, kids, job, whatever. Also I'm really not interested in sex stuff or your kinky creations, although I'm cool with their existence it can feel alienating not being into that stuff. But I don't care if you post about them, it's your life - I'm just more interested in other stuff!

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Not especially interested, but if you have fun with that stuff go do what makes you happy!

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
I really don't want to make people feel like they have to comment in a particular way. If you want to leave long, thoughtful comments, I love that, but if you just want to say things like "This!" or "I like that thing too!" or just "+1" then go right ahead. Comments of any sort are welcome.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
Not at all! That sort of thing is only going to make people feel anxious that they're not commenting enough and the last thing I want to do is to make people feel like they have to meet a social interaction quota! (I've been there. It wasn't pretty.)

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
If I have something to say, I'll say it. I'm a bit shy, and can get afraid of saying the wrong thing, but I do try to drop by and say hello or leave nice words.

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
I usually just unfriend, but I rarely do even that unless you're posting stuff I find upsetting on a regular basis.

AND LASTLY

Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?

See my icon? See my website? PETZ. Not the Ubisoft Nintendogs clones, the proper 90s PF Magic games. I do a lot of modding work with breedfiles and lately I've been involved in trying to crack the deeper workings of the game and delving into its code. The Petz games are very precious to me and where I got my start on the internet in the 90s. Here's my petz minisite.

The game Niche, which is the subject of my one lonely not very fannish fanfic and lots of artwork.

Other stuff - I sometimes get excited about Pokemon, and I'm hyped for Galar (my home is a pokemon region now, that is SO. AWESOME.). As you can probably see by now the closest things I have to fandoms are sandboxy settings with lots of biology to play with. I love anything with a good bestiary. Also fond of Britcoms and I love Red Dwarf; I'm a regular attendee of Dimension Jump (going again next year!). Finally, if you love Knightmare and the Crystal Maze, you're speaking my language.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
Yeees, if you started to wonder, I'm a furry, okay? No, it's not a sex thing. I just think animal people are fun to draw. Please don't be scared!

dreamwriteremmy

Is there an interesting story behind your username?

I have two main accounts here on dreamwidth, I am accepting friends requests on both accounts and they predominantly have very different content.

This one

dreamwriteremmy is my personal account, and its story spawns from a fairly niche but popular 2007-2014 LiveJournal self-insert Kingdom Hearts RPG series called World Refugees, which was a spin-off of the ever popular "Zombie Invasion Meme" going around at the time of creation. My character went by Emmy and originally used my old journal

ladybrighid3333. In 2009 I switched journals and chose this name because it was the name my character had chosen for herself in-game a a year or so earlier.

dreamwriters is our writing/art/public-fandom account. The story behind it is that it was a err... typographical error of sorts? XD Haha. We wrote a guest article for a Healthy Multiplicity by the plural friend currently running it a couple years ago as a part of the December Blogging Meme and as a request from a singlet (at least i think they were a singlet) with a plural friend looking for tips on ways to manage dissociation and time-weirdness, and at the time, all our sites used the tag "The DreamWriters Dreaming" and uh said plural friend didn't ask us for our system name tag and assumed that our system name was DreamWriters based on our website names. So, it kinda stuck and we decided it was too much of a hassle to correct them and why not? Superheroes can have 2 alteregos, why can't we? XD So Dreamers United became our personal overarching system name and The DreamWriters is the professional overarching alterego system name, which we use for business/advocacy purposes. And a couple years ago we corrected the username on this journal to be dreamwriters on all its mirrors. :D

Location and language(s):

northeastern massachusetts, currently Lowell MA. I speak predominantly English. I know some Spanish (used to be fluent but i don't remember a lot of it anymore), a tiny bit of Russian, a tiny bit of French-Canadian, a tiny bit of Cantonese Chinese, and a tiny bit of ASL. I'm currently only actively learning Cantonese and ASL, though.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
30s

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:Eh. Proselytizing in general for ANYTHING (I love my Jesus-loving friends and my non-Jesus Loving friends -- I'm a Unitarian Universalist and an eclectic religious syncretist. I blend spiritual beliefs under the umbrella of "most spiritual teachers taught Love". Witch and Healer is a part of my personal spirituality and no one is going to change that for me). Abusive behavior if I get a report from someone else that you ain't a good person. Sometimes we just don't click and i may unfriend you for that too, but generally i'll let you know and i'd appreciate that being mutual.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?
Sort-of but they're only semi-up-to-date. basically anything linked on the friends only post is fairly relevant.
Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
so-so. it's a little outdated still. i haven't gotten around to fixing it up completely.
List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
We're plural. We are predominantly composed of fictives and factives (that means people based off fictional people and people based of RL people). We're disabled. We have mental health and learning challenges. We are cat people predominantly, though warming up to dogs. We're queer & an afab nonbinary femme. We are creatives and fandom people.
You mostly write about:
real life, innerlife, ranting, writing, to-do lists, fandom, cosplay, art, graphics, memes/quizzes, occasionally video posts.
You never or very rarely write about:
NSFW stuff on here, politics
Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
a mix, but mostly locked
Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
Yes. We have 3 requestable filters. We have the cheerleading filter which is a productivity filter -- you post your to-dos, and there's a subcomment thread for people to "cheer on" each other. You can request critiques, if you're doing a writing/art project, however critiques are opt-in on both ends. 😄 We have the In-System Personal Stories filter, which delves into fictive and factive trauma, squicky/taboo system stuff, and basically anything we don't feel comfortable making completely public at the time. The final filter is the Are You OK filter. Sporadically, we will post a comments disabled self-care checkin post that simply asks "Are You Okay? This is a gentle self-care reminder."
Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
variable. Could be multiple times a day, could be once a month. It really depends on what's going on and whether i'm more on other social media.
Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
Occasionally. Mostly memes/photos/videos. Occasionally linkspams and gifs. I always try to explain/image describe what most photos/gifs are.
What do you enjoy most about journaling?
Getting shit out of our brain basically.
How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
I read daily. I may or may not comment. You may have to wait a week until I do my binge commenting spree on old posts.
You really enjoy reading about:
I"m open to anything tbh. I like daily posts reflecting on day. I like posts reflecting on fandom interests even if I don't share them.
You have very little interest in reading about:
Eh i'm not so interested in rl nsfw/kink filters, though i will read them. ❤️ I tend to personally keep my kink stuff on a separate journal entirely from both of the above because i have a couple kinks people have STRONG feelings about. Feel free to ask me in a DM, if you're interested in that one, but i'm really selective about who i add to the locked stuff on it TBH.
Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
perfectly fine!
When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Neither tbh. I accept nonverbal/semiverbal/low-spoon commenters! See my commenting policy! :D
Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
Not typically. See previous question's link.
What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
I may or may not comment. I often look for a blogger's commenting policy, so if you have one I will ADORE you! Often, you may be waiting a week until I do my binge commenting spree.
When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
Typically, I will message you UNLESS you end up being the second deal breaker in which case I've been warned that you are not safe to interact with. If we don't click, please tell me you're leaving! That way I can remove you mutually.
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Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
Young Wizards series, Magic Ex Libris series, Harry Potter, anything Night Vale Presents podcasts/books, The Sims, The Rise of the Shield Hero, Black Clover, Blue Gender, Studio Ghibli, Gravity Falls, some horror stuff occasionally. Sometimes MCU/DCU, various original fictions I follow.
Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends? i don't think so.

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